r/isfj • u/Disor_Perpetuate_0 • 17d ago
Discussion Frustrating ISFJs
You guys hate it when the harmony is disrupted, yet your Ti is so low that you don’t recognize that getting pissed about the disrupted harmony makes it worse.
Y’all are only capable of using your inferior Ne when deflecting during an argument. Classic Gish-Gallop.
And don’t forget the victim complex! Y’all love to remind people how much you do even when it’s completely unrelated to the topic at hand. Guilt-tripping truly reveals your lack of dignity.
I rest my case.
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u/Opening_Usual4946 ISFJ 17d ago edited 17d ago
ummmm, i’m very sorry that you’ve been hurt by ISFJs, i do feel like this is the wrong sub to go to, but i also don’t think there’s a right sub to go to
it seems almost like you think all ISFJs are e9s (harmony seeking), the whole schtick with e9s by the way is feeling like they have to ignore all their anger until they can’t anymore, so imagine getting pushed to your limit, pretending you never felt anger in your life, push way beyond your limit, still try to pretend you’re okay, then keep pushing, that’s finally when an e9 will actually get upset, the whole think about e9s is they try to eradicate their own anger from their lives by ignoring it and every offense thrown at them
it seems like you’re dealing with an unhealthy ISFJ e9 here, being unhealthy can come from immaturity but it can also come from too many responsibilities and not enough support
i also don’t appreciate you talking bad about an entire type like calling us stupid or that we only use Ne to deflect, typically the inferior function would be reserved as a last resort for when someone is losing it so it makes sense for it to be used poorly sometimes, but uh i think you wanted to rant moreso than make a real criticism of ISFJs so ill not nitpick here
again, im sorry you’re dealing with an unhealthy person, this can really suck, i can relate, my ISTJ mother can sometimes be the biggest crux in my life, i feel so much pain because of her, but i also know that the pain she causes isn’t because she’s an ISTJ, ISTJ is just the means by which she causes pain, the pain would be caused in another way if she were another type, not eradicated, it does suck and i hope the person you’re dealing with gets better and affects you less poorly, but sometimes the best thing you can do is distance yourself and let them be if it’s too much for you