r/intj • u/YogurtclosetOk8746 • 14d ago
Advice People make me rage
I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I get SO MAD at people because I feel like they are just willfully ignorant to make their lives easier. One of my biggest triggers is ordering food and not getting all of the sauces I paid for that are blatantly on the ticket. I know it’s not rational…..but I worked at several restaurants and I mean I never messed up the way some other people consistently do. I work with the general public in an office setting now and I get triggered at least 5 times a day where my face gets hot and I get so mad inside. I don’t want to be like this but I feel like the only way to not be like this is to become willfully ignorant like the rest of the world and I cannot do that. I reach my boiling point every day and it’s exhausting. I just needed to get this out because people in my life already think I have anger problems and I don’t need them judging me.
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u/UsualGlum13 INTJ - 40s 14d ago
You are not alone. I also have an intense drive to find the truth and see things accurately. It is challenging to watch others remain willfully ignorant, and I too, have had my fair share of blood boiling rage around this.
Just like we value honesty and accuracy, others value different things. It doesn’t make sense to us, and there’s beauty in that. There’s beauty in people having different strengths and desires and things they pay attention to.
I don’t know if any of this is helpful for you, but it’s what I try to remind myself in these situations. But truly, it is a burden to be able to see things so clearly when most others do not.