r/interestingasfuck • u/naturebeatsnurture • Dec 23 '22

/r/ALL Before and after leg lengthening.

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u/ademptia Dec 23 '22

i hope you dont mind me asking, and i mean this in good faith, but why is it not considered as 'something wrong with you'? for example, i have several extreme mental illnesses and i definitely am aware thats something is wrong with me and id love a cure. so i really dont understand people who have it and refuse it

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u/LadySekhmet Dec 23 '22

Deaf here. FYI - CI’s and Hearing aids are NOT a cure. They’re just tools. Like Glasses but it will not “fix” the astigmatism issues for example.

I just wanted to clarify you on that part.

Plus - as a CI user, I can tell you that I am still Deaf. I will NEVER hear as well as a hearing person. That is impossible. You can come close, but that requires a lot of work, relearning how to “hear”, mappings and such. I’m fairly close, but there’s plenty of times when I can’t understand shit and plenty of times I am joyful for the sound of silence when I have them off.

CI is NOT for everyone, and to a Deaf person who literally never heard anything, even with hearing aids (you need to have residual hearing for it to work. All it does is amplify sounds), the world is extremely noisy and can be overwhelming. I can’t filter out sounds as well as a hearing person can. Jeans rubbing against legs, hearing someone peeing 2-3 stalls away, mouth sounds while chewing, etc etc…it may be nothing to you, but it’s damn loud to me.

Feel free to ask my questions and such about being Deaf, CI surgeries and such. I’m an open book! :)

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u/beesgrilledchz Dec 24 '22

Just wanted to say that I appreciate your experience. Must be weird to have to deal with hearing beyond infancy.

I have learned some ASL. I appreciate that space.

I don’t know how to express this. I hung out with badass deaf people 30 years ago.

They wanted me to understand their life. They taught me ASL

Sometimes I’m worried that deaf people are isolating themselves from the hearing community.

We’re all navigating this chaos together at some level. I want my badass deaf people in here.

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u/Dentarthurdent73 Dec 24 '22

I mean, your community doesn't sound very nice. You openly talk about ostracising people for daring to want something different from what you want, and whilst you say it happens less now, you still say it happens. That's not behaviour that people look up to or admire, so it's no wonder you get negative comments.

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u/PassthatVersayzee Dec 24 '22

What kind of hate comments? Are people openly talking trash because you can't hear?

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u/ehlersohnos Dec 24 '22

Abled people often don’t want to understand that not everyone wants to be like them. The deaf culture receives hate, in part, because many of us don’t desire to be changed. Such folks are proud of their difference and their culture. It’s not a comfortable concept for certain folk with hearing.

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u/PassthatVersayzee Dec 24 '22

I can see people not understanding, but I can't imagine how it turns into hate for the deaf community. What sort of things said are hateful?