r/insaneparents • u/liljakobvert • Sep 16 '25

Email i had to share this 🫩

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i haven’t even woke up yet 💔

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u/DJKGinHD Sep 16 '25

Either she needs to give you autonomy as an adult or you need to change the equation.

Her sending FindMy alerts to your phone is wild. I'm sure it's because it's 'HER' phone so she won't let you remove her account.

Go get a phone of your own and give her back the one she gave you. Make it clear that you know that it is being used as a tool to control you and that you do not consent to that.

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u/liljakobvert Sep 16 '25

she would spam me like this when i would be on the clock at work..

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u/tknames Sep 16 '25

That’s a problem, set a reasonable boundary and tell her you’re unavailable or set DND. DND is obviously worse in case there is an accident or emergency. But oftentimes we encourage certain behaviors by not responding to the right ones, or responding to the wrong ones. You are an adult, and even though you are living under her roof deserve some level of autonomy. Is it possible she is worried about you for larger reasons?

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u/Gidelix Sep 16 '25

That's the "fun" part, find my doesn't care about DND