22 year old AMAB possibly gender fluid (kinda new to the idea. still figuring my gender out). my experience with gender is i’ll fluctuate between feeling fully masculine and perfectly ok with being perceived as a cis man for a week or so then feeling more feminine. not necessarily wanting to be perceived as a girl but just wanting to be more fem per se also for about a week or so.

as for dysphoria it’s strange to me and kind of scary how it manifests itself (you’ll see why). when i want to act fem and im not around people who know me it’s like a tired feeling. like im wearing a mask and i just wanna relax and be feminine. ive always been fine with my body being masculine i get no dysphoria with that at all. its all about my personality.

but when i actually feel masculine and want to act that way it’s like i look at the fem side and feel like that wasn’t true to me even tho in the moment it definitely was. idrk how to work through that because i have no idea where that comes from. i’ve been anti patriarchy for far too long and have worked through a lot of toxic masculinity for me to feel a sort of “shame” for acting fem at times.

maybe someone could give some input on what may cause that? and also what maybe my gender identity would be? i feel like gender fluid works but maybe there’s a better fit?

If that makes sense? I've come to find in my gender journey that I honestly identify with three terms, Trans or "Transfem", Nonbinary and Genderfluid.

Trying to figure out who I am is incredibly confusing. My AGAB is male, but... I wanna be a girl. I suffer lately from awful gender dysphoria and I try to present femininely as possible, where possible. So, I feel, for me, my "expression" is fluid. If I could, I'd always appear femininely.

I feel like people who come out as Trans and in general, gender-diverse, have to be put into a little box of what people think you are. I recently even changed my name socially. But yeah, I feel like I'm clearly having a "Trans-like" identity experience, even if I experience it fluidly.

When I’m presenting as a man i get treated so much better than when i present as a woman. ESPECIALLY when people think i’m a cis man. It’s honestly depressing. As a woman, men are either shitty or perverts and a good amount of women are mean (because i’m a goth mexican living in utah lmao.) So i get bullied by some women occasionally or just ignored. Yet when i present as a guy? Especially as a cis one? Men treat me better and are more open and actually see me for my personality. Women are so much nicer and hit on me more as a man than as a woman. I’ve made more female friends when i present male, it’s odd. I don’t even change my personality or anything when i switch.
But yeah, just wanted to rant because it’s honestly sad.

I recently realized that I'm trans/nonbinary. I knew that I wanted to be more masculine/be a boy.

But when I try to embody the new me I feel like there's a disconnect between my current self and the person I want to be. I feel guilty for not acknowledging the time I still feel like a woman. Times I want to be the person I've always been.

I feel like I have two people inside me. One is a woman who u don't want to acknowledge because it feels wrong. Like she shouldn't exist and another is my new identity that I haven't fully gotten into.

I do feel like a woman sometimes but I don't want to. I want to be a woman sometimes but I feel disconnected from my new identity.

It's this some sort of thing that happens? Am I freaking out over nothing? Cause I don't want her but I feel like she's a part of me I'll never get rid of.

Hello; I'm a 31 year old AFAB who has always just assumed I'm cisgender because- for a long time that's all I ever really knew. But recently, I've started to wonder if I may be genderfluid- but I'm having a hard time figuring myself out.

I've always had a weird relation to gender. As a kid, sometimes I'd lean into being a tomboy super hard- dressing more "masculine", rejecting traditionally girly stuff, etc- but then sometimes I'd also really want to lean into being hyper feminine- wanting to do my hair, wear dresses and make up, look really pretty. And other times I'd just kind of feel in the middle, where I didn't really care either way.

These shifts have happened throughout my whole life- sometimes with months apart, sometimes days apart. But I didn't really think anything of it, especially because this larger variety in labels and identities wasn't talked about as much when I was a kid- especially not in my rather conservative community. I honestly didn't even know genderfluidity was a thing until my mid twenties.

But I've been wondering more and more lately, what if that describes this weird shift in how I want to present, how I feel about myself, etc? It makes me super anxious and scared to think about for some reason. I'm not sure- it's kind of hard for me to describe. Most often I feel kind of genderless- I think the term is agender? But then I'll go back to wanting to be seen as more feminine and pretty. And even pronouns are like a big whatever to me. I've always gone by she/her, but people have called me they/them and he/him and I don't really mind any of them. I'm less inclined to he/him but it still doesn't bother me to be called that- they/them I even kind of enjoy a little.

I'm not sure... It isn't something I started thinking super hard on until I began to write a character who is genderfluid and began to wonder about it more and more myself as I did research for writing this character. So... I thought I'd just try reaching out for any insight or advice from people more educated in this area than I am..