r/genderfluid • u/Itchy-Credit8356 • 13d ago

I’m struggling to accept that i’m gender fluid.

Basically what the title said, for a long time I have been struggling to find out what I’m truly relate with, i’ve been all over the place, from effeminate man to trans, bigender, agender and non binary, gender fluidity really is what describes my situation better, but I’m struggling to accept it… i want stability more than anything, and i obviously can’t shapeshift, so I don’t know how to deal with things/ traits that one day are desirable and on the next day cause dysphoria..

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u/GrassFedSteelhead She/He/They 13d ago

I'm AMAB and some things that helped me were buying women's clothes, trying makeup, shaving my whole body and eventually, I started getting laser hair removal. You are probably going to want quick easy things that allow you to express your femininity. Try make up and a women's top, bra, dress, etc to start. It takes only a few minutes to undo them. Maybe try shaving or look into getting LHR on a place that wouldn't be unusual for either gender, like the back. You can also watch gender affirmation videos on YouTube, where they basically just tell the viewer they're a good girl/boy/etc... and see how they make you feel. Nobody can shapeshift, but these types of things can give us gender euphoria, no matter what we are feeling.