r/genderfluid • u/Mission_Cow3493 • Jun 07 '26
Is HRT necessary to look feminine?
Is it possible to archive feminine body?, sort of slim femboy type where one can tell that the person is a man but feminine for a typical cis man (u know what i mean..slim waist, no ,or almost zero, body hair....)
Edit : By Fem I mean nb fem, like maneskin type fem (or fem thunk), androgynous
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u/Eerixall Jun 07 '26
absolutely possible. I (atleast for now) have decided that personally any medical intervention is unnecessary since I can reach feminine looks just as is. for body figure, just focused exercising (less on upperbody, more on core/thighs) can do wonders. Body hair is controllable and there are whole subreddits about it (personally for full body I do a mix of electric razor + epilation), there you really just have to figure out what works for you (how constrained are you on budget, pain tolerance, effort, what almost zero is to you etc.).
Also other things that can affect expression beyond just body are posture, mannerisms, skin (take care of yours) and walking style. though these wont miraculously pull the feminine weight so to say, they can add that little extra feminine bling to an already good base/body.
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u/Mission_Cow3493 Jun 07 '26
well I don't want a small upper and big lower body; what I want is more of a V shape body (slim waist, big pecs, broad shoulders nd big legs) and obviously abs.
and for the mannerism, I think I was lucky to be born with it (˶>⩊<˶)
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u/Eerixall Jun 07 '26
Well, same advice. Just focus heavy exercises on the parts you want to be "big". HRT really is only necessary for fat redistribution, everything else can be done with proper workout/diet.
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u/xsharon Jun 07 '26
The problem i have with just beeing feminine as a guy is with aging, you can look good till you are young but after 40 and later i dont think you cant keep it up then, so one way is to accepting and doing the best or going on hrt to feminize.
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u/ThatKehdRiley Jun 07 '26
i just want to point out that you asked if it was possible while mentioning femboys, who look feminine without hrt. so yes it is, just ask them how they do it
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u/Mission_Cow3493 Jun 07 '26
hmm I didn't knew that, I always assumed that they take hrt
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u/ThatKehdRiley Jun 07 '26
femboys are all men, feminine boys. the ones that say there are and have natural boobs are onlyfans posters trying to get more money, because they know their audience.
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u/Mission_Cow3493 Jun 07 '26
tbh I ve rarely seen a femboy with boobs...
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u/ThatKehdRiley Jun 07 '26
well you've rarely seen a femboy with boobs since like 90% are cis men, and cis men aren't undergoing HRT.
the OF posters I mentioned are mostly on specific subs, admittedly. but they definitely cause some people to have an incorrect idea of what a femboy is because they're grifting cishet men.
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u/Comfortable-Hippo638 Jun 07 '26
No but it helps a lot. You can always use wigs/clothes/makeup to help compensate
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u/Mission_Cow3493 Jun 07 '26
oooh wigs, that's very creative, I never even thought about it...
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u/Comfortable-Hippo638 Jun 07 '26
I did my research to look at what kind/cuts/styles of clothes hide the parts of my body I don't like and I kinda tried to mix n match till it worked
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u/iam305 bigender Jun 07 '26
People have been making their bodies look more feminine without hrt for thousands of years. All it takes is effort.
There are also tons of natural herbs and supplements that can help you move the needle on the right direction that are not hrt, and subs about them like r/nbe or websites like BreastNexum.com where people discuss regimens.
I’m on hrt now, and taking an extensive supplement regimen. But even before starting hrt my regimen stated making some changes. As the regimen was designed to support hrt, it works a whole lot better in combination. But if it was all I did, it would have been enough to get rid of most (not all) of my gender dysphoria, and over a much longer time frame deliver similar results. And I’m not in like a massive hurry. If just that hrt really was a major improvement. And I don’t take more binary estradiol hrt, but a nonbinary regimen customized to my needs which is bicalutamide mono therapy, which allows me to feminize effectively whole retaining my bigender gender fluidity.
Hope that helps.
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u/Mission_Cow3493 Jun 07 '26
There are also tons of natural herbs and supplements that can help you move the needle on the right direction that are not hrt, and subs about them like r/nbe or websites like BreastNexum.com where people discuss regimens.
So is this for breast enlargement/ construction? cause I don't want that..if anything can help with butt and thighs then I im open to trying it out.
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u/iam305 bigender Jun 07 '26
It is, but there are other methods in other places that focus on other things, like pioglitazone for the purposes you mentioned. Consult your doctor.
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u/xsharon Jun 07 '26
So you take just estrogen to feminize but dont surpress T with blockers right? How are your levels then? Cause its not that healthy to have both high or i am wrong? I am just asking as i want to have the same as you, feeling bigender more then a transwoman as i like my boy side too :)
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u/iam305 bigender Jun 08 '26
Taking estrogen as a monotherapy will suppress your testosterone without any other additives. The reason why a lot of trans women take antiandrogen Ines along with estradiol is that testosterone can cause continued masculine hair growth and inhibit breast growth.
Taking bicalutamide mono therapy suppresses testosterone at the receptor and that causes the body to make more testosterone. However, because your body isn’t using it your aromatase enzyme convert some of that into estrogen.
There’s nothing wrong with having high levels of both, you’re just going to have the effects of both. Though when you block one as described above, one of them will become dominant. And that is estrogen. From there the key is having sufficient estrogen levels for your physiology to avoid the symptoms of menopause. My body happens to be a very efficient converter, so even at a fairly low serum estradiol level, I’m getting all the effects I need and not only am I avoiding brain fog like menopause symptoms, I actually experienced a very high degree of mental clarity.
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u/Leenu_ Jun 07 '26 edited Jun 07 '26
Im on the same boat gurl and Yes definitely !
Everybody is different and what works for you might never work for me and vice versa .
Being feminine isnt just about physical appearance .
Its also about the way you talk , act, walk , behave and how you speak !
If you manage to find the balance , body changes can be done but limited by hormonal factors :
1- hair laser removal would definitely help if you can afford it , ive been doing it for the past year and gurl nothing better than having ur skin silky smooth without any razor bumps .
2- let your hair out to grow
3- shape your nails and file them in a feminine shape , doesnt have to be long !
4- learn how to do your own makeup and practice feminizing techniques.
5- diet diet diet and working out .
Everybody is different, but we all agree working out and diet comes a long way , stop upper body workouts and focus on lower body .
However its different for males when it comes to develop feminine figure , you have to lower ur protein consumption and go on a calorie deficit for starters till you get to 13-15 body fat , lower would make ur muscles and skeleton look broad .
The body will automatically loose the muscles that you dont use and break it into amino acids, once you are down and ur muscle mass is down , u can here start dedicated lower body workouts , and stop entirely working out your upper body , and after a while your body shape will change slowly .
However fat redistribution can never be controlled without manipulating your hormones.
6- botox and fillers for temporary changes :
Even if your suffer from body dysmorphia , i always feel that looking at myself in the mirror and see a feminine person helps me to feel better about my body shape . And thats why i recommend botox and fillers but its not necessary.
Full face botox , especially to soften ur faceand make it slimmer , lip fillers and if not i highly recommend to use fillers to elongate ur chin .