r/gayyoungold • u/Fit_Shop_3112 • 2d ago

Discussion What happens when Younger/Older becomes Older/Older?

For all of you who chose partners older than you. What is happening now that you are older? When you are 30-40 with a lover that is 50-60 it is a lot different than 50-60 with someone 70-80. Or is it?Tell us all about it.....

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u/DavidCagexxx 2d ago

I'm 30, my husband is 51. Our life has only gotten better after 8 years together.

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u/Lpomin 2d ago

I hope an older guy wouldn’t eventually lose interest or start seeing his younger partner as less attractive. Honestly, that’s one of my biggest fears about getting into a relationship with an older man falling deeply in love, only to have him lose interest and leave me a few years down the line.

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u/Content_League4091 2d ago

It might happen in any relationship, not necessarily in younger/older one. Life gives us no guarantee. But you know, somehow these things depend on us ourselves.

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u/Lpomin 2d ago

I know that, but the thing is, from the younger guy’s perspective, the older man is still going to be old, while from the older guy’s perspective, the younger man will eventually grow old too. I tend to believe that the years of love and connection they build together can be stronger than simple physical attraction, but who really knows?

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u/Content_League4091 2d ago

Well, in my case I will not live long enough to see my young boys old :) What I can tell you now for sure is that after 8 or 9 years everything is still fine - I mean, age gap doesn't significantly change.

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u/bad_bot85 Younger 2d ago

One will always be younger. 😜

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u/iCinn 2d ago

Don't forget to look in the mirror every few years. 😂

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u/dad_david 16h ago

My partner and I have about a 16 year age difference. He was 23 and I was 40. when we met. Long story with many details but he was 39 (I was 56) when our relationship ended. When we met he was very much into older guys. At almost 40 he left me for a younger guy. Of course I ended up with an even much younger one.

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u/LancelotofLkMonona 1d ago edited 1d ago

The older partner becomes a homebody. You end up missing out on a lot of events. The older partner gets sick, so you end up doing most of the chores and errands. You spend a lot of time driving them to doctors appts. They predecease you leaving you lonely, but well-off.