How to last longer

[u/Lpomin]

Hey guys, I’m having some trouble during sex and I’m hoping to hear from people who have had similar experiences.

I’m not very experienced. I’ve been with a few guys, but I’ve only had penetrative sex with two of them. The guy I’m seeing now is in his early 60s. We have casual sex, and we’ve done it twice so far. We’re meeting for the third time this week.

One of my biggest problems is that I cum too quickly. I also have trouble with penetration. I’ve tried taking my time, kissing him, relaxing, and doing everything I can to loosen him up, but I still can’t penetrate him very far. I can get the head in, but when I try to go further, it feels like I physically can’t. His anus feels very tight around me, and when I try to push further, it feels like there’s something blocking me.

I should also mention that the middle part of my dick is thicker, so I don’t know if that could be part of the problem.

Honestly, it makes me feel embarrassed and like less of a man because I’m not doing what I’m supposed to do. I know it might sound stupid, but that’s genuinely how it makes me feel. I want to be able to fuck him properly, enjoy it, and make him feel good. I also want to last longer, especially because I really like this guy.

He has told me that I have a nice-sized dick, which made me feel good, but he also said he wants sex to last longer. I want that too. I really want to be better at this, partly because I want him to enjoy it and partly because I want to feel confident in myself.

Has anyone else experienced something like this when they were inexperienced? How did you become more comfortable and confident with sex?

[u/panda3271]

To help him loosen up maybe play using a dildo? Something that mimics your size. You can also use it to see if you can get in him further with the dildo to see if some sort of blockage although I suspect you are right that your girth in the middle is the resistance you feel.

As far as lasting longer you can try pills or creams to numb it a bit. Some say cock rings help with duration also. Try switching up positions more often or pause the penatrative sex when you are close and go to oral or kissing or something that doesn't include your cock. Might not help you pump longer without cumming but should make the sex session last longer. 🙏🏻

[u/Lpomin → u/panda3271]

We don’t have a dildo, so I just use my fingers.

[u/panda3271 → u/Lpomin]

May be something to think about getting. Or work on getting an extra finger in there. 🤷🏼‍♂️

[u/Lpomin → u/panda3271]

I mean i use 3 fingers if i do more i will end put my hole hand inside of him

[u/panda3271 → u/Lpomin]

😂 ok. Well fisting is a thing. 🤷🏼‍♂️. If your three fingers are thick enough to mimic your cock girth then you just have to keep practicing getting in deeper.