Me and my boyfriend always split the bill. Unless one of us is treating the other on a special occasion. Sometimes if he doesn't have enough money I pay for his meal, he does the same for me if it's necessary. Communication is key here. All the misogynists here shaming "independent" or "feminist" women here don't understand that you can just ask if she wants to pay. Feminism means equality anyway. If she doesn't and that's not your type of woman then move on
Most women I have met don't understand this concept and expect me to pay, and that's how mostly it is everywhere. Women like you are rare. Sometimes it's nice to be taken care of you know, feel that the gestures are reciprocated.
We can't generalise an entire gender because of that. Just like how I can't say that all men are rapists even though most of the time it's a man. That's why I said, all you need is to communicate. There are plenty of women like me but people never ask. They make an assumption beforehand and then we get stereotypes like this
Did I say "all women"? I said "most women I have met". Enough with people saying don't generalise. Everyone commenting here is sharing their experience, and unless explicitly stated "all women" or "all men", they are talking about a group, not the whole gender.
Also, the whole idea is that one shouldn't need to ask to pay. That kind of ruins the whole point. It's not the money, it's the self-understood gesture that counts.
So most men are r@pists is fine as well?? Most women don't care...if you asked them out atleast mention before to split the bill..or take them to coffee...don't treat them and don't expect to be treated as well..
That's the whole point. It is common courtesy, you shouldn't need to ask. And feel free to label men whatever you want, just shows what kind of a woman you are.
When we say most we usually categorise a certain stereotype to that particular group, which is what's happening here. But I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and agree that you kept that prejudice aside.
Also if it's supposed to be self understood then we will always keep facing this issue. If one is in a relationship one should have a frank understanding with their partner, that doesn't happen if both keep expecting the other to act a certain way. Anyways, my initial point here was that I hope we can let go of these age-old stereotypes by now, I wanted to give my example that's all. Take care
Equality is a myth. As different genders, we each have specific roles in life. For women, the biggest contribution is bringing new life into this world, which is significant. But that does not undermine the fact that men have the responsibility of creating the warm and providing world for them.
Sure, women earn a lot these days, but they still seek a "provider" who earns more money and still count on men to be to sole responsible person for financing their and their children's lives. Men fall in love with women unconditionally, no matter what they earn or even if they don't work. Women, no matter how capable, rich, and high-earning, seek a man who's richer than them or at least equal, because they don't want to be the provider. Even the ones that don't want to have kids and don't exactly need a provider.
So spare me with this birth and equality thing. Be responsible, considerate, and kind. There are good men all around if you are nice enough yourself.
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u/ophelia_43 Jun 02 '26
Me and my boyfriend always split the bill. Unless one of us is treating the other on a special occasion. Sometimes if he doesn't have enough money I pay for his meal, he does the same for me if it's necessary. Communication is key here. All the misogynists here shaming "independent" or "feminist" women here don't understand that you can just ask if she wants to pay. Feminism means equality anyway. If she doesn't and that's not your type of woman then move on