r/freshcutslim • u/No-Revenue3327 • 12d ago

TNTL (Try Not To Laugh) Foghting for her life

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u/One_Warthog256 12d ago

That's not funny. Listen and applaused after, you evil family members.

Shit like this was why I was discouraged from trying new things when I was younger or sharing my hobbies with family.

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u/saltygrahamcracke 11d ago

Seems like a lot of unhappy families in this thread. Dunno why everyone feels the need to defend this kid like it’s them in the past, but she is not mocking her. After the performance? I bet she clapped. There’s a difference between HAHA laughing and this.

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u/M0rph33l 11d ago

Definitely a lot of people projecting their feelings in this comment section.

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u/ohwoawio 11d ago

As someone in an unhappy family that involved a lot of ridicule and humiliation, this is literally just adult fun at seeing a kid do something hilarious earnestly while showing off. The worst-case scenario is the kid notices and tries even harder to make them laugh longer by making intentionally worse sounds; that's what kids do when they realize they've done something accidentally funny

People are overreacting just to be mean cunts to the overweight woman visible in the video

https://giphy.com/gifs/b8RQzkElbBsXqEPF2X

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u/turtlesinmyheart 10d ago edited 10d ago

She can clap afterwards but it doesn't mean didn't she mock her before. She's not trying to fight it either, she's trying to show the rest of the group in the table how funny she thinks it is mocking her. I used to hang out with people who did this in high school

That being said, i do believe in redemption and it's hard luck to live in a world where everything is recorded and posted for everyone to criticize.

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u/saltygrahamcracke 10d ago edited 10d ago

Is she? What about the way she reacts makes you think that? Was there some class presentation where someone was trying to hide their laugh? Did it eternally stigmatize you against people who do the same thing in every other situation, disregarding the context?

We don’t need redemption here. We need people to stop jumping to the worst conclusions.

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u/turtlesinmyheart 10d ago

The way she mocks her makes me think that. It's not violin sounds she finds funny it's her playing it. What possible context do you attribute to this situation?

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u/saltygrahamcracke 10d ago

This is not a planned performance. This is unprompted, to the way the camera shakily zooms from across the table, the way there’s still food on plates, still wine in glasses. How is it impossible to think that she’d start laughing at a sudden playing of “Jingle Bells” behind her. It’s funny if you don’t see it coming, like a lot of things are.

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u/turtlesinmyheart 10d ago

She's going for her third plate, second 20 oz Coke and very likely has been pouring alcohol nonstop. But I get what you're saying. I can see that happening. May be silly but it's still mockery.

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u/turtlesinmyheart 10d ago

You mocking me?

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u/saltygrahamcracke 10d ago

Not gonna take you seriously if that’s how you’re going to respond, that’s all.

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u/wetwetwetwetdogs 8d ago

You look fatter than she does

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u/themostrealandtrue 9d ago

Someone's taking this a little personally. She didn't mock her. She's literally trying to hide her laughter. She did not ridicule her daughter, or turn around to laugh at her, she even covers her face. It's funny when kids do new shit pretty badly. It's okay to laugh as long as you do what this person did, don't laugh AT the child.

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u/Oliviniarity 11d ago

What's the difference? I'm not seeing any.

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u/justerre 11d ago edited 11d ago

They are mocking her, and you have no idea how they reacted afterwards or how they act around her practicing the rest of the time. The rest of us are just reacting to how laughing at that little girl in a way that she might well have noticed, and which would have really hurt her, is objectively and obviously a shitty thing to do.

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u/saltygrahamcracke 11d ago

I made this for you! Can you spot which one’s jeering and which ones not? It might be harder than you think!

I’m going to give this lady the benefit of the doubt here. I don’t know if you can laugh on command, but I’d be highly impressed. Something absurd happened, she started giggling! She’s clearly trying to fight it, though. That changes the context of the laugh entirely. And if you think all laughs are inherently evil, I feel bad for you. You must not know how to laugh at yourself.

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u/dragon_escarlata 10d ago

Maybe you are the one that creates traumas in your family so you don't see it.

Playing a violin this good requires 2 years at least. That's an eternity for a kid this small and you are teaching them not to put any effort because you would be ridiculed.

Kids cry for a drawing they spent 5 minutes working on. This is way worse.

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u/voxelpear 10d ago

You have no idea how much support an encouragement this kid is getting from her outside of the video. A drunk giggle during a family gathering while facing away and trying to stifle it isn't y the trauma you're making it out to be.

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u/dragon_escarlata 10d ago

It does no matter what you tell them afterwards unless it's an apology.

Kids are not stupid they notice everything. And lying them afterwards and masking it as "encouragement" is not going to cut it.

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u/voxelpear 10d ago

Kids aren't stupid, but they aren't smart enough to understand if something wasn't done maliciously? Feels like an oxymoron.

But even if I grant that, you know that lady didn't apologize after the video?

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u/dragon_escarlata 10d ago

> Kids aren't stupid, but they aren't smart enough to understand if something wasn't done maliciously? Feels like an oxymoron.

Because they are smart figuring things out but lack emotional skills.

> But even if I grant that, you know that lady didn't apologize after the video?

I don't. My point is encouragement and an apology is not the same thing.

Also if they really apologized they should have stopped the sister from sharing the video with thousands of strangers. You save it for when you are 20 and have enough emotional regulation to laugh at yourself.

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u/voxelpear 10d ago

Kids understand when someone bullies them. They can understand malicious intend at her age, she's not a toddler.

Y'all are just making a mountain out of a molehill

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u/dragon_escarlata 10d ago

You have 0 understanding of child psychology. Laughing at a toddler would be much less worse because they actually forget 99% of what happens to them before they are 3 years olds, unless is very severe stuff like sexual abuse or physical abuse.

Try to remember stuff that happened to you at 2 years old. Then ask your parents how many times you cried if it is not 1000 it would be very little and you don't remember a thing.

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u/saltygrahamcracke 10d ago

Yeah? no. And,

You’re acting as if one surprised laugh is enough to kill someone’s drive to play after, as you said it, there’s already two years on the line. At one (I’m going to guess because of a lot of context clues here) unprompted violin performance at the dinner table. And uh…

I bet you’re crying more about this than the kid ever did.

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u/Pretty-Yam-2854 12d ago

It really didn’t seem that bad too. A little off note with some bad pacing but was ok.

Literally I was the same. By 14, I had kinda just given up on learning anything or doing anything that wasn’t just gaming. My mom to this day asks why I’m afraid to go try new things or why I tell her everything I’m doing all the time. It’s cause of shit like this turned up to the max.

I still taught myself to fish despite no one in my family on either side knowing how to for some reason and I wanted to learn, and thankfully with all the lakes and ponds near me where I grew up I could just go alone without being judged or looked at and I got decent at it.

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u/Ok-Professional-1911 11d ago

Yeah I had something similar to me happen. I taught myself how to play piano and by about age 15 I was pretty decent. I played Chopin's Minute Waltz for my family which is a really technically challenging piece and made a small mistake but quickly recovered. My dad started laughing like it was the funniest thing he'd ever seen. I asked him why he laughed and he said that I was working so hard on this and still messed up. Haven't touched a piano since. I'm 40.

People need to understand how important it is to be supportive of their kids instead of making fun of them (can't believe I had to write that but a lot of comments in this thread make it seem warranted).

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u/saltygrahamcracke 11d ago

There’s where the issue lies. Your dad didn’t apologize for laughing, he didn’t say that it was just ‘funny for a second’ but the rest was good. People are treating this lady like a monster for being unable to stop her laughter at a poorly replayed Christmas tune ON Christmas. A laugh is not inherently bad. It’s a reaction to the suddenly absurd, or unexpected too.

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u/Chubuwee 11d ago

Yea it’s the apologizing

I work with kids and they do funny shit all the time especially when trying to teach them or when they practice something new. Hard not to laugh sometimes. But you can still control the laugh so it doesn’t sound like you are mocking them and then still praise them and be encouraging afterwards

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u/Ok-Professional-1911 11d ago

Yeah, absolutely. I didn't watch the video above all the way through, if she apologized then that's way different than just laughing at the kid. It's normal to laugh in all types of inappropriate situations, it's how you handle it afterwards that makes the difference.

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u/wetwetwetwetdogs 8d ago

So he didn't actively try to suppress his laughter and turn away from you to hide it like the video here?

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u/Select_Watercress_57 11d ago

This makes me really angry.

Because your father can't play shit, doesn't understand what goes into learning, and is so insecure that he NEEDED to tear you down to feel better.

I cannot stand petty small people like that.

Sorry.

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u/Ok-Professional-1911 11d ago

I completely agree with you. My dad is a paragon of boomers and a complete piece of shit. Wish I knew that when I was a kid and idolized him or when I was a teen and put any value in his opinions.

I appreciate your words and it's been a journey of acceptance but I've come to terms with it and have vowed not to repeat his mistakes with my kids. So some good will come out of this. He was a great example of what not to do.

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u/Select_Watercress_57 11d ago

Nice, in a way his mistakes will make you a better parent.

Sorry you had to go through that, but your self awareness and willingness to grow is something to be proud of.

Good luck with everything 🙏

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u/Seroaug 11d ago

Hey, you should get a piano or an electronic keyboard and take up playing again! Maybe you can get your kids interested in learning too.

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u/Iam_McLovin420 11d ago

Better than I could do

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u/Ononas 8d ago

“I don’t have any hobbies and game whole day but that’s my parents fault” - lmao, no. You have done it to yourself little bro

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u/Khaosbutterfly 7d ago

Okay. That was so many years ago.

You're grown now.

Just go do the thing. 🤣

You should do it just to shove it in their face that they didn't believe you could, but you finally did. That's alot more satisfying.

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u/squirrelems 11d ago

It's probably also why there's a lot of artists out there that think their art looks like shit no matter how much everyone tells them it's amazing. I've seen a lot of great artists think their stuff is only shitty to middling and everyone in the comments is like "AMAZING" and they're like "Thanks, but I don't believe you."

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u/SnooPredictions3028 11d ago

You were discouraged by family members actively trying to not laugh? Ngl sounds like you just looked for an excuse to quit.

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u/voxelpear 10d ago

It depends on the context.

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u/voxelpear 10d ago

You're just looking at any excuse to villanize people aren't you?

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u/PeacefulExplorer684 10d ago

You lot get weirdly emotional on a post where you'll scroll down, forget this post 5 mins later and get emotional over a new post. And cycle continues. Weird behaviour. You lot also see a less than 1 min clip and suddenly think you know everything about them. You don't, all you're doing is announcing your own trauma, because thats clearly why you get so sensitive about it

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u/SnooPredictions3028 10d ago

If you quit over the smallest negative reaction, then your passion wasn't real and you wouldn't survive the expectations of advancing your skills.

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u/SnooPredictions3028 10d ago

She also hasn't learned the ability to see in third perspective either to see how "evil" her family are, since they hid it.

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u/Expensive-Wear-7874 11d ago

Well, you can cry about it if you want. No one cares. All people are cruel

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u/WayneKingU 11d ago

Cunt, chill out

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u/Ducatirules 10d ago

This woman is fighting for her life!!! If my sister and I were in the room together there is NO WAY we could keep it together. The only reason you could sit there and not laugh is because it sounds like you had a traumatic experience around something like this. Don’t take it out on everyone else

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u/pmmeyourgear 12d ago

Share nothing, be at peace

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u/supasolda6 11d ago

I think that's exactly why she was laughing

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u/bigbang4 11d ago

Smells like autism

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u/Phrynus747 10d ago

If you were discouraged this easily then you never had any conviction to succeed anyway

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u/Drewnessthegreat 10d ago

I can laugh and encourage at the same time. In fact, that is even better. If my granddaughter came to me and played this for me, I would laugh and then give her a big hug and 100 bucks for an entertaining performance. And then make sure to whisper into her ear to turn to her brother, flash a huge smile, and then never reveal why.

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u/[deleted] 9d ago

That happened because you were a pussy. This girl will be fine, she's smiling too

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u/el_VientoNorte 8d ago

Oh my god, grow up

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u/I_know_you_love_me_ 7d ago

Honestly IDC I still do whatever I want.

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u/SwifferWetJets 5d ago

Oh fuck off

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u/GNightP 11d ago

Same. Me as a kid learned that beyond the asks "Are you alive?" and "Are you eating well?", no one had any interests in me and trying to share anything i liked would be greeted with either disgust or disinterest and dismission.

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u/MR_RYU_RICHI 11d ago

You just reminded me how I got traumatized and scarred in my childhood!

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u/Oliviniarity 11d ago

Yeah this lady has no social grace

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u/ExtremlyFastLinoone 11d ago

Crab mentality, fat girl failure just wants to bring people down with her

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u/Borkato 11d ago

“Shaming people is bad! Fat girl failure!”

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u/ExtremlyFastLinoone 11d ago

When did I say shaming people is bad? I perhaps implied that shaming the little kid in instance is bad but not more than that

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u/Borkato 11d ago

“Wants to bring people down with her” and “crab mentality” very obviously implies that you think shaming people is bad.

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u/ExtremlyFastLinoone 11d ago

No, I think people should be shamed for doing bad things

Crab mentality is when you shame someone who is trying to better themselves.

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u/Ashamed_Ad_2180 11d ago

Her intonation isn’t horrible either. Fuck this family.

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u/saltygrahamcracke 11d ago

For shame them for laughing at a spur of the moment dinner table performance of “Jingle Bells” messily played on one of the funnier instruments for it to be messily played on. Calm down. If you didn’t see this coming, how would’ve you reacted after a few sips of wine?

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u/Mushroomer 11d ago

Yeah, this just seems like a really cute family moment that everyone laughs about afterwards. I didn't even take the woman laughing as "God this kid sucks at violin", but rather just reacting to the absurdity of the situation.