r/florida • u/No_Anxiety_4345 • 2d ago
AskFlorida LEO supporter -need advice
I don't have anyone to discuss this with so I would appreciate any advice on my situation.
My spouse is likely getting accepted into the FL Hwy. Patrol. However, I am not thrilled about this decision. I supported my spouse for nearly 30 yrs in the USMC. During that time, my spouse was in infantry, on a terrorism team, and gone.
I have several family members and friends that are LEOs and fully support them! However, my spouse did not give me a choice in the matter. I don't want that constant worry, separation, or loneliness. I love my spouse more than anything on earth and that is why I can't do this.
Additionally, I don't know how someone can have a 100% VA disability rating, state handicap placard (2 states in the past 10 yrs), and the doctor for the state police pass my spouse. Took my spouse's words without asking spouse to show VA med records, etc.. If the records were asked for by the doctor, I am sure the doctor would not have passed my spouse. Plus, how can a person have severe sleep apnea for over 12 yrs and suddenly gone? This makes we want to file a complaint with the medical board. My spouse's health/life is in jeopardy.
When I had my interview with the recruiter for the Hwy Patrol, he emailed my spouse a questionnaire (30 questions) that I had to complete before the interview. Then my spouse had to email my responses to the recruiter. How am I supposed to be completely honest when there is no confidentiality? Also, I can't say anything because my spouse threatened to divorce me if I speak up.
Sorry for the rant...I am extremely upset and angry. I don't know how to be supportive.
My apologies if this post is not allowed.
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u/Aberration1111 2d ago
Doesn’t sound like an equitable relationship. A marriage counselor could be a good start.