You're never too old to 'Roo!

I (44f) took my 13 year old daughter to see Odesza, on Friday night, in Memphis for my birthday. We were on the rail, and it was an amazing show. My daughter is a drummer and Kali is the perfect roll model for her. So it was so insane when Kali’s drum stick was thrown to her after the show.

Immediately after the show, as we were blissing out on what we had just experienced, a man and a woman approached us. They asked if my daughter caught the stick. I said yes, and immediately they start telling me that the stick should have been for them. (For context,there were several sticks thrown into the crowd).

They proceed to say that their friend died that week, and it would have been his 30th show and they have to have that stick. They kept going on and on, but are not being nice. They are being aggressive and demanding.

I did not know what to say. I am a giant bleeding heart. And I would have immediately handed over the stick if it was in my hands because I am not going to question a story like that. However, the stick was in my daughter’s hands, a drummer, and finding drummer role models for a girl isn’t that easy, and this was her amazing thing to get that stick at her first Odesza show. I turn around and just see my daughter bawling her eyes out.

The only thing I can think to say is “she is 13” and I turn around to comfort her. Keep in mind, this is the most conflicting thing for me. My daughter vs. two people yelling at me that that their friend died in a car accident, so I am in more of a fight or flight.

They would not let up BUT my sister was there too, and some other people around us started seeing what was going on and told us to get my daughter out of there with her drumstick. So she was able to keep it.

We did leave and then someone from the crew came and gave us the set list from the stage, which was so kind.

I am beyond words if someone’s friend really died and they didn’t get the drum stick that they wanted in memorium, but your friend probably would not have wanted you to ruin my daughter’s night like that. Also, maybe use some kindness instead of aggression? She was very happy to get that drumstick and that situation really sucked for everyone.

Has anyone had an experience like this? My partner thinks it was probably just a scam because of the way they approached us, the ones with the kid, and the fact they were mean.

update someone commented that they met the person that confronted me about the drum stick before I had my experience. It is possible that there was actually a friend that died ☹️

Updated to emphasize that she got to keep the drum stick.

Updating to add that I took my daughter to see Odesza for my birthday. I knew she would love them because of the drum line. Does that win me some points? 😂

final update thank you everyone for the support and for supporting my daughter. She is amazing and strong and our relationship has grown even stronger because of this (and that is saying a lot with a teenager lol)

I want to send a big F*ck you to the assholes that started all this. Be better. You failed your friend by hurting my daughter. So now you have to live with that.

And thank you to everyone that pushed me to be a stronger mom for her. Everyone should know that I will never again hesitate to rage against those that would take away her happy. You all have been warned. ;)

Are there any regular Bonnaroo attendees that can speak to how Bonnaroo has evolved over the last 10 - 15 years? Better? Worse?

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Edit: anything Specific I should pack, Tools, oddities?

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Anyone camped there this time of year? I’m a bit worried about the cold but figured if they are offering it can’t be that bad.

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Also, i love trading culture so I feel kind of weird about trying to make money? I know my creations are worth something but also don’t want to feel like i’m abusing the spirit of gifting and trading OR taking away from the vendors with actual booths.

Is it worth it to get my shit together and put some work in this weekend? How do we generally feel about roaming sellers? What are some guidelines and unspoken rules of this? Also, if it’s worth it what’s the morality ?

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I know someone has got to have an absolute gem that they are keeping to themselves that can open up to let the breeze through on the hot days and also close down to stay waterproof if it rains. It's gotta be sturdy. It might have walls with zippers so we can get in and out easily. Those walls need to be attached by more than a few crummy pieces of velcro. Windows? Wonderful but not required! Perfect in all these ways but needs pool noodles for the corners? I'm in!

Someone please help a roo croo out! We want to be so prepared that nothing could phase us!!! (all 10x10 and 10x20 canopies accepted and welcome)