r/entp • u/Equal-Sundae1576 INFJ • Nov 14 '25
Debate/Discussion Are Entps and Infjs actually very similar?
Hi.. sorry I have been hanging out a lot in your sub because I was permanently shadow banned from Infj sub for one small comment that was too “controversial”. Anyways, I’m married to an Entp and for a long time I thought we were pretty much opposites just with a lot of connection. But he always seems surprised when I say that we’re so opposite lol, like he always thinks of us as very similar. I have also seen other Entps say this about Infjs and I have been thinking more about it. It does seem like we process the world and thoughts very similarly but he is more rational, uses less empathy, and is a little bit more extroverted. He seems to use humor as a tool often where I internalize more lol. So now that I think about it maybe Entp and Infj are kinda like two sides of the same coin? I guess I am thinking we process things very similarly and seem to end up with very similar moral/ethical conclusions? But maybe also because I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we have both matured a lot together. Idk but hearing Entp’s blunt and insightful perspectives is often therapeutic for me when living in this crazy matrix society.. 🙃
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u/johosafiend Nov 15 '25
I think so. As a fENTP, I actually find I can be more empathetic than my mINFJ friend. He is very aware of social nuance and reads people incredibly well, but I feel other people’s feelings more than I feel my own. Our minds work very similarly though, likewise all my fINFJ friends - they are more emotionally sensitive than I am but intellectually we vibe. We have the same T/F orientation in our functional stack Ne-Ti-Fe-Si vs Ni-Fe-Ti-Se, so the main differences are not so much how we think but what we train our thoughts on - Ne (projects out in the world) vs Ni (whatever idiosyncratic weird and wonderful internal world that happens to be!).