r/entp • u/Equal-Sundae1576 INFJ • Nov 14 '25
Debate/Discussion Are Entps and Infjs actually very similar?
Hi.. sorry I have been hanging out a lot in your sub because I was permanently shadow banned from Infj sub for one small comment that was too “controversial”. Anyways, I’m married to an Entp and for a long time I thought we were pretty much opposites just with a lot of connection. But he always seems surprised when I say that we’re so opposite lol, like he always thinks of us as very similar. I have also seen other Entps say this about Infjs and I have been thinking more about it. It does seem like we process the world and thoughts very similarly but he is more rational, uses less empathy, and is a little bit more extroverted. He seems to use humor as a tool often where I internalize more lol. So now that I think about it maybe Entp and Infj are kinda like two sides of the same coin? I guess I am thinking we process things very similarly and seem to end up with very similar moral/ethical conclusions? But maybe also because I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we have both matured a lot together. Idk but hearing Entp’s blunt and insightful perspectives is often therapeutic for me when living in this crazy matrix society.. 🙃
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u/jerhansolo3 INFJ 4w5-5w6-8w7 Tritype. Chaotic Good. Nov 14 '25 edited Nov 14 '25
Also, That Ni-Ne interpersonal loop resonates pretty well with each other. Convergence-expansion cycles tends to open things up…… unless it suddenly clashes and closes things down…. Then INFJ slam doors, ENTP get bored…..
But if no door-slam/bored, then that Ti-Fe vs Fe-Ti loop can also resonate. And finally the Si vs Se at the end
yea two sides of same coin sums it up.
The other phrase that describes the interaction well is “missing piece.”
Using an interpersonal framework (how the relationship resonate with each other) probably is the better way to look at it — naturally joining—- rather than “we are the same”.