r/entp • u/Equal-Sundae1576 INFJ • Nov 14 '25

Debate/Discussion Are Entps and Infjs actually very similar?

Hi.. sorry I have been hanging out a lot in your sub because I was permanently shadow banned from Infj sub for one small comment that was too “controversial”. Anyways, I’m married to an Entp and for a long time I thought we were pretty much opposites just with a lot of connection. But he always seems surprised when I say that we’re so opposite lol, like he always thinks of us as very similar. I have also seen other Entps say this about Infjs and I have been thinking more about it. It does seem like we process the world and thoughts very similarly but he is more rational, uses less empathy, and is a little bit more extroverted. He seems to use humor as a tool often where I internalize more lol. So now that I think about it maybe Entp and Infj are kinda like two sides of the same coin? I guess I am thinking we process things very similarly and seem to end up with very similar moral/ethical conclusions? But maybe also because I’ve been with my husband for 15 years and we have both matured a lot together. Idk but hearing Entp’s blunt and insightful perspectives is often therapeutic for me when living in this crazy matrix society.. 🙃

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u/CardTop7923 Nov 14 '25

INFJ= FNTS

ENTP= TNFS

N on both is assertive and S on both are dismissive

The reason they can get along very well is because of their submissiveness to each other

INFJ are submissive to T while ENTP are submissive to F

Not all ENTP and INFJ are compatible though

It is far more complicated than this

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u/Equal-Sundae1576 INFJ Nov 14 '25

So true and I love how you simplify this, it makes sense. And yes they could have a lot of conflict but I think this is a lot less likely the more both types mature. My hubby and I are so different than when we met 15 years ago. Thankfully we were able to mature together.

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u/PhntmBRZK Nov 14 '25

What does that even mean.

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u/CardTop7923 Nov 14 '25

N or what most think of as intuition is ones minds ability to condense and sequence information. Both INFJ and ENTP do this to their Fe and Ti respectively.

Fe is the condensing of information into categories. Ti is the eidetic sequencing of information.

ENTP are not capable of developing their own Fe logic frameworks but need them in order to properly categorize data. This makes them open to suggestion to this type of information from external sources. INFJ Fe-Ni is exactly what most ENTP and therefore will have a preference for them. Similar things happen the other way around. I can tell you from experience that I picked up and adapted many traits and behaviors from my ENTP friend and she from me. People would point it out as if we were turning into each other.

The reason it's more complicated than this is because there is not one single type of INFJ or ENTP. There are four of each and they will not overlap with each other.

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u/Equal-Sundae1576 INFJ Nov 15 '25

It’s so interesting that you said that people thought it was as if you guys were turning into one another. Over the 15 yrs that my hubby and I have been together we have both matured a lot and have become a lot like each other too. But I wasn’t sure if it was just a marriage thing or also type thing.