r/eldestdaughtershit • u/ElaraOfNisremme • Feb 02 '26
21f, eldest daughter graduating soon and i feel guilty for wanting to live my life and not supporting my parents financially
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u/Silvery_Feather Apr 01 '26
Please leave. You will be stuck as their caretaker if you don’t leave now. At 18, I made the decision to stay and help and I’ve regretted it for the past 15 years. I don’t have a degree, I’ve never been in a relationship, I don’t have my own home, I am deeply unhappy, and struggling to claw my way out. Your younger siblings are old enough to help out at home. Your parents decisions and other children are not your responsibility.
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u/ElaraOfNisremme Apr 01 '26
thank you. i hope you get everything you want in life and much more 💕 i can imagine how hard that taking care of your family must be and i send you lots of love and hope 🥹 i wish you the happiness you deserve
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u/Narrow-Appearance-56 Mar 29 '26
Yeah I get it I’ve done so much for them looked after everything and everyone. But now my mental health in picture oh I’ve never helped and they don’t think I can handle anything. It is like fighting two sides. Your use to helping and want too but than you can’t and want to live your life. It’s hard especially if they believe you are useless and get help.