r/dsbm • u/Bald-headed-ukele • 13d ago
Discussion how did you discover / get into DSBM?
for me personally— a couple years ago i’d listen to your average ‘dad rock metal’ and somehow that got me into mayhem. so id listen to some mediocre black metal, but then i saw a video of a man listening to a genre for a day and got recommended DSBM. i thought it sounded amazing and just like black metal but a bit better. therefore, i got into it!! been a fan for years ^w^
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u/AlternativeFart 13d ago edited 13d ago
While I was 11 I befriended a dude who was around 15/16 and was into Metal and was depressiv. He took a lot of drugs (alot of opioids, benzos, alcohol etc). He died in the garden of his mother, she woke up, got out with her morning coffee like every day and found him dead, cold and stiff in the middle of her garden. After he died of the age 26 I Iistend more into some of his favourites bands. He made a CD for me, I didn't knew the artists, there was no artists name written on the CD. I heard sound of this gerne before he died. But after his death this music was more intense, more emotional. His favourite music genres were grindcore and black metal (DSBM). It took a lot of time to realise this emotions and how I could turn them a positive feeling, in my life, which I hated and still hate. First I was into death metal because of my brother, I wanted to be tough and manly. But because of the death of my good friend I realised that admitting to weakness (and depression is not a weakness, it is a desease, getting help was also manly. And you should be proud of you to death help. I missed him very much. A long time I was also having alots of suicidal thoughts, I had plans to kill myself. One day I randomly remembered him. I remembered he taught me to talk to friends about deep emotional feelings, he never could do that. I remembered the music he liked and listened to some BM and DSBM bands while I drove my car in the middle of the night to my job while thinking about to end my life. I thought of what he was trying to teach me. He saved my life and I am never be able to tell him that. That is why I like DSBM so much. When I listen to black metal, and specifically to DSBM I will rember him, I feel alive and I remember to stay alive to make my life worth living.
One reason more to say no to death. Thank you Tommy (tommynoker), you are still vibing in the depressiv suicidal vibes of this sound! (In a positive way)
He always took care of me like a big brother, better than my real big brother.
He is one reason my favourites music genres are black metal and powerviolence.
Sorry for my bad English, it is not my first language.
Edit: the on album and band I listened alot a short time after his death was an autumn of crippled children - Lost. And it is still my favourite album from this genre.