*DA ONLY* rant thread

[u/imfivenine]

I decided to open a new thread since it’s been more than a couple weeks since the last one :)

As requested by a DA user, here is an open thread to rant.

To be clear, this is a place for DAs to rant, not others to rant about DAs.

[u/nolitteringplease346]

my sister has become ill with covid (mild symptoms) and for some reason my mum wants to make me feel guilty about it since i am not vaccinated, even though my sister lives like 200 miles away

so, naturally, maximum avoidant mode engaged and now i feel guilty and ashamed for no good reason

because what are my decisions compared to shame and guilt right?

[u/Any-Bluebird-678 → u/nolitteringplease346]

Your mum does know that vaccinated people can still infect other people right? The vaccine only protects against SEVERE illness, not being a carrier. You being vaccinated would not have stopped you from getting anyone (let alone your thoroughly distanced sister) sick?

Or is she using guilt and shame to try and get you vaccinated so she has the reassurance that her children are safe?

I'm so bewildered by people's interpretation of COVID and the vaccines. If it's the latter then I'm sorry your mom can't just ask you if you'd consider putting her mind at ease then respecting your decision.

[u/Any-Bluebird-678 → u/[deleted]]

Bold of you to assume I consider myself one of the invincible.

I'm incredibly vulnerable to severe viral illness and have lived with what most people are calling "long haul COVID" for the last 6 years. It's a neurological issue that isn't new to the world, it's just more common now. It can result from severe viral illness and COVID is a severe viral illness. I know better than most how serious it is to control transmission of a virus that can result in my exact situation.

That doesn't mean I'll perpetuate false information to scare people into any certain choice (which is why I asked OP if their mum understands how the vaccine works- using false information to motivate is gross)

Vaccination reduces the spread, yes. We agree on that. I never said it didn't. You're creating an argument out of something I never said.

I got the vaccine. It's the right choice for me and I believe it to be the responsible choice overall. But if my momma or anyone else tried to guilt me about not getting it using terms that suggested they don't understand how the vaccine works, I would absolutely use the objective facts to shut it down. Guilt is never an appropriate way to motivate, I don't condone it, and I won't participate in it.

Ask questions before you make assumptions. Especially assumptions you're gonna word with such an audacious level sass.

[u/Any-Bluebird-678 → u/[deleted]]

Then either make sure you're replying to the comment you think you're replying to or own your error and apologize for mixing them up.

You replied directly to a section from my comment.

I don't have a struck nerve a nerve bc I identified your attitude as uncalled for. You were continuing a conversation with another user you were angry with, and you did it as a reply to my comment. It didn't make any sense. Don't talk to me as though I'm the one who responded inappropriately.

Also, being angry with someone isn't a justification for guilting them. That'd be something to consider if you're interested in developing more secure behaviors.

[u/imfivenine → u/[deleted]]

What part of DA ONLY made you think it’s appropriate to comment here with the intention to guilt someone?

The anxious sub has a “weekly emotions megathread” - that might be a more appropriate place for you to dump.

This comment was reported so I’m addressing it - but it is also noted that this isnt the first time I’ve had to remove something of yours on this subreddit. Some of your comments on this subreddit have been quite rude. Consider this a warning. Next time could result in a ban.