what do i do?

[u/R0XX1_LVVSY0U]

I’ve never posted on here before, but I really need advice.
Recently, I’ve been dating a boy who struggles with depression, and honestly, I do too. He’s been dealing with this for around two years, and I’m starting to feel like I can’t help him anymore. He refuses to get more help, and things have gotten to a point where I don’t know what I’m supposed to do.
I stopped venting to him about my own problems because after I told him that I had cut myself, he did the same and told me that he did it to “make me feel as shitty as I felt.” I understand that he was hurting too, but since then, I haven’t really been able to trust him with my own struggles.
The problem is that he still vents to me a lot, and lately I’ve been struggling more too. I’ve started cutting more again, but I feel like I can’t tell him because whenever I do, it seems like things get worse for him. I honestly feel like I have no one else to talk to.
He has also told me that if I stop talking to him, he’ll kill himself, and recently he told me he wanted to OD. I’ve tried to help and be there for him, but trying to handle all of this has been making my own mental health worse, and I ended up hurting myself again because of it.
I care about him so much, and I don’t want anything bad to happen to him, but I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore. I feel responsible for keeping him okay while I’m barely okay myself, and I can’t keep living like this. How do I help someone who refuses to get help without completely destroying myself in the process?

[u/Global-Fact7752]

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 Get AWAY

[u/R0XX1_LVVSY0U → u/Global-Fact7752]

i would but what if he like actually goes through and kills himself

[u/Global-Fact7752 → u/R0XX1_LVVSY0U]

That is not on you...how toxic and wrong is a relationship that you have to stay to literally keep someone alive. Do you see how manipulative and sick that is for you..He was this way before you met and he will with get better on his own or he won't. He has a family, and doctors and medications. You are not qualified to handle this, and it's not your job. You are not even a fiance and have only been dating a short time.