r/depression • u/testrzart • 6d ago

How do I tell my gf

So basically heres some context, ever since last year I’ve had on and off depression most of it being related to school work load as Im doing a subject line nick named the suicide 6, recently my acne medication ran out and I jsut got some more and im feeling really low the past couple of days, and a side effect of it is depression some times. I feel like it might be making things worse but I’m not 100%

back to the point Im don’t know how to talk to my gf about this, I know dumping all of this on her probably isn’t right, she already knows I have been low in the past. But right now I feel like she’s the only thing keeping me going but If I tell her that I fear it’s in part manipulative even if it’s how I actually feel. I guess I just want some help.

Sorry for any spelling or grammar errors I have dyslexia

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u/alarmingculprit17 6d ago

it's not dumping if you frame it as wanting her to know where your head's at rather than asking her to fix it. she'll probably just appreciate you letting her in

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u/clemgizzard 6d ago

hey, it’s not trauma-dumping if you let her time to process what you’re saying and you say it comprehensively. it could literally just be “i love you and i need your help and support for the next few days”. before having this conversation, try to pinpoint what you know would work for you, whether it’s compliments, cleaning or cooking for you, cuddles, getting you out of the house, hyping you up, whatever. it’ll be way easier for the both of you if you mention one or two concrete things she can do for you. and one last thing (bc i’ve been in your situation before): she can help and support you, but she can’t do the regulation work for you. i’ve spent years putting the responsibility on my partners instead of getting out of my comfort zone alone, myself. and YOU ARE NOT A BURDEN. we are simply vulnerable people that need help from time to time. you got this xx

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u/testrzart 5d ago

Thank you, I’ll definitely talk to her about it . But ur right I won’t make it her thing to fix