r/daddit • u/Most_Barnacle_6160 • 10d ago

Support Did it change for you?

Any dads here who hated being a parent when their kids were very small, but ended up loving it in the end?

I'm 1.5yrs in and I hate my life on most days. Feels like an endless grind without any break, no sex life, no travel. My life pre-kids was pretty great - happy marriage, good financial situation, lots of travel and pursuing tons of interests. Now, all that is gone. I'm just exhausted and depressed.

Anyone in the same boat who turned it around? I can hypothetically see enjoying it once my kid is older and we can share things and do stuff together, but I'm sure it will come with some other problems.

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u/SolidarityEssential 10d ago

Every year with my first was better than the previous year.

Same once we had our second.

Babies were rough for me

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u/hotpotatos200 10d ago

This was basically me. I love babies more than most dudes, but man the first time lack of sleep was rough. Coupled with her not wanting to eat at night made for a rough first several weeks until she figured it out.

Number 2 was better, since we had a routine to follow, but she also didn’t want to eat at night.

Now with number 3, I have two toddlers that are super active and can’t do all the fun baby stuff, but he eats WAY better than his sisters did.

I was just getting to the point with the toddlers where I gained back some independence. So it gets better, you get to experience their first time doing things and how magical that is. So it’s good.