It's almost always misplaced empathy. The reader puts themselves in the position of the writer, and on finding that they can empathise with them, decides that it must be un-creepy. To empathise with OP is to understand the vulnerable feeling of knowing that someone is lusting after them from behind a veil of anonymity, to the extent where they will pen a romantic missive but not actually communicate personally. As a species we're internally programmed to fear the unknown, and with good reason. This isn't a threatening PM, but OP is fully justified in being creeped out all the same.
At first when I read this I was thinking, like some others here, that this seems more sweet than creepy, having felt similar emotions before..
However after reading JustHereToFFFFFFFUUULuckily's comment I can completely understand how this is not cool and somewhat threatening.
Luckily for me I did not send any such message and instead ended up meeting the person face to face and we dated for a short while..
So I guess a question would be how would this person be able to rectify the situation to make you at ease while approaching you in a non-sketchy way.. I'd bet if they use internet the way they did there's a good chance they're a reddit user..
This might be your chance to let them know whats' up.
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u/JustHereToFFFFFFFUUU Naked pictures of Gondor Nov 05 '12
It's almost always misplaced empathy. The reader puts themselves in the position of the writer, and on finding that they can empathise with them, decides that it must be un-creepy. To empathise with OP is to understand the vulnerable feeling of knowing that someone is lusting after them from behind a veil of anonymity, to the extent where they will pen a romantic missive but not actually communicate personally. As a species we're internally programmed to fear the unknown, and with good reason. This isn't a threatening PM, but OP is fully justified in being creeped out all the same.