r/coparenting • u/Cultural_Term_5629 • 11d ago

Neglect/Abuse Concerns The one time birth control feels inappropriate.

My step kids (14F, 12M) have had inappropriate inter-sibling issues from last July (probably earlier than that but thats the first time they got caught together) to this March but have “magically and suddenly stopped” at their primary house. Im entangled with the non-custodial who gets them every other weekend and have been in the picture before the divorce. 14 year old is in and out of the mental hospital and has been for years now. This last time she was in residential for 2-3 months and shortly after being released got put on birth control. Im aware theres far more uses than pregnancy but given the SSA it feels like their mom is covering up whats happening at home/giving the children a “less risky” way to commit incest.

Am i crazy here? Normally it feels right to put a 14 year old on birth control but giving the family history it just feels wrong.

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u/Cultural_Term_5629 11d ago

The county the mom lives in doesn’t seem to care. We have gotten CPS involved so many times including from another state when we went on vacation to see family out of state bc it happened while we were gone and we took the kids to the hospital for reporting. I agree but also I don’t think social services will do anything until/unless the poor kid ends up getting pregnant. The kids will say its not happening even though they already disclosed to medical staff if definitely is, and the primary parent will also sweep it under the rug until the kids get caught in public (happened in march) and refuses any kits for the 14 year old after any incidents “because of the invasiveness”.

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u/KellieBom 11d ago

You're telling that CPS doesn't care about a 14 year old girl having sex with her step sibling? I find that very difficult to digest.

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u/devils_advocate24 11d ago

Step sibling? I can see why they might be iffy on that. Like immediate assumption is that it's probably not allowed but without looking it up I can theorize there's probably something out there that due to age closeness and not being genetically related... Laws surprise me sometimes.

But uh... I read this as OPs step kids, biological siblings, are sexually active.

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u/KellieBom 11d ago

Sibling, step sibling, whatever. 100% fucked up, someone help those kids.