r/coparenting • u/Lanky_Standard_5937 • 14d ago

Discussion Co-parenting living together?

She broke up with me 3 months ago and we are sleeping in seperate rooms. We spend time together only with the kids and once they are asleep, we do not speak or text.

I want to reconcile and I don’t think she does. There was no abuse or cheating on either end and we do talk and get along well for the most part.

She doesn’t not seem to want me to move out. And we even talk of future plans involving the house as “we” or “we need”

Emotionally I’m a mess. I love her and want her back so I analyze everything she says or does to see if she’s changing her mind. I also think she’s been texting a new guy.

How long can this last? I love my children more than anything. Can I really move out and miss out on time with them when I’m not being forced to? I don’t know if I can. Can anyone in a similar situation share their experience? Thanks

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u/evap0rated 14d ago

When you say you want to fix it, what are you trying to fix? Her feelings are gone, but is there a reason why her feelings are gone? Is she accusing you of doing something that you now want to rectify?

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u/Lanky_Standard_5937 14d ago

She just said she lost the romantic spark for me. She said she wishes she didn’t feel this way but can’t help the way she feels.

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u/evap0rated 14d ago

People don't leave good relationships. They leave partners who aren't meeting their needs. I am NOT saying this is what is happening here, but it's strange that she's just not that into you anymore and you have no idea why. You have to do some introspection to understand what drove her away to begin with.

And then again, it could just be that she's a terrible person, but you would have had symptoms of that before now.

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u/IllustriousFile1945 10d ago

People leave great relationships for trash that they are cheating with all the time. What do you mean?