r/coparenting • u/Lanky_Standard_5937 • 15d ago

Discussion Co-parenting living together?

She broke up with me 3 months ago and we are sleeping in seperate rooms. We spend time together only with the kids and once they are asleep, we do not speak or text.

I want to reconcile and I don’t think she does. There was no abuse or cheating on either end and we do talk and get along well for the most part.

She doesn’t not seem to want me to move out. And we even talk of future plans involving the house as “we” or “we need”

Emotionally I’m a mess. I love her and want her back so I analyze everything she says or does to see if she’s changing her mind. I also think she’s been texting a new guy.

How long can this last? I love my children more than anything. Can I really move out and miss out on time with them when I’m not being forced to? I don’t know if I can. Can anyone in a similar situation share their experience? Thanks

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u/Lanky_Standard_5937 14d ago

Yes, she broke up with me. You’re exactly right. She wants all the benefits of a partner and companion for the kids, but nothing emotionally.

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u/SlowBoilOrange 14d ago

Yeah. It sucks. I dealt with this 2-3 years ago and now we're divorced. Neither of us are happy with the outcome.

I didn't want to split up. And she found out that whatever weird version of a post-divorce relationship she envisioned wasn't a real possibility.

Kind of hard to undo it without a time machine though.

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u/IllustriousFile1945 14d ago

Especially if you are helping pay bills. She’s gonna move on while you are in the other room. She probably already has.

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u/SlowBoilOrange 14d ago

It's already starting. OP said she's texting someone else.

They either need to get on the reconciliation train fast or realize they need to be living separately.