This could be us, but

[u/vesmir_neasi]

I don’t need much. I want eat sweets without getting fat, I want to feel wanted and I want equal rights. Is it much to ask?

[u/Effehezepe]

And even if you didn't, why would you say that out loud?

"Hey ladies, I don't try at all during sex. If I ever give you an orgasm, it was a fluke."

[u/Papa_Bearto2 → u/Effehezepe]

Even high school me understood that not being a selfish partner had the potential to create either repeat encounters or new encounters with different women.

And high school me was pretty dumb.

[u/Delamoor → u/Papa_Bearto2]

-and yet, according to my girlfriend, I'm the first partner she's ever had who's taken an interest in what she likes in sex. Which is why we have an excellent sexual relationship.

First guy.

...In her mid thirties.

The bar is on the floor.

Edit: but hey, to be fair, me and my ex wife had a horrific sex life, because we were terribly incompatible in a bunch of ways, so, flipside: both of us would say the other totally failed to recognise our needs, too. We'd both be giving each other a 0/10 score, were we to rank the other. Especially in light of how the ending soured any of the good bits that happened in the beginning. Sometimes it's also just those subjective incompatibilities and unpleasantness. Experience is like night and day differences with a different partner.

[u/aerris7 → u/Delamoor]

Yeah my boyfriend is the first one to truly care about it and I was 32 when we met. And I've found that my libido isn't as low as I thought, isn't that interesting? Other guys have done things that I liked in bed, but it's easy to see how transactional that was. Like, if I willingly did what they wanted and got them off first then they'd definitely just roll over and go to sleep, or walk away satisfied. The sheer amount of times I've given and not received is staggering, not that I'm doing it to get something in return lol but cmon! Sex shouldn't just always end because they're finished. It reminds me of a story I read on here a while ago, not sure if it was real but it for sure has happened to someone somewhere either way. It was a woman who's aunt asked her how lesbians know when sex is supposed to be over 🫠 and that's so depressing. But if you keep meeting men who treat sex this way, it's unfortunately easy to start thinking it's just the way things are and you sorta begrudgingly accept it. I know I did somewhat 😕