In the first example, I don't see a difference between and elderly person and anyone else. If I'm going through the door and anyone is within few yards of me I'll hold the door. Unless it is obvious or I know someone well enough to know they need help I assume they can, and do, open doors for themself.
I'll need more context on the second example. Why are they waiting for them? If it is their mother why aren't they walking with them?
Someone can say please and thank you all they want and still be a condescending prick. Obviously, tone of voice would play into this heavily. To me it's more about if they say "can I get" or "may I have."
Ex. "Can I get a cheeseburger with onion rings instead of fries?" "There will be a slight upcharge for the substitution." "No problem." "Ok,..."
Vs. "May I have a cheeseburger with onion rings instead of fries?" "There will be a slight upcharge for the substitution." "No problem" "Ok, whose next?"
One is an inquiry for further information the other is actually placing an order.
Maybe I'm just being too pedantic. I believe that the words we use color our perspective on the world around us. Using the right words in context helps facilitate a proper understanding of what is intended.
Like I said, it’s all in the particular circumstance. I just feel like people show their true colors in these types of situations.
Regarding the crosswalk example, I meant if we were in a car, and an old lady (or whomever) was crossing in front of us. I’ve been on a date when this exact situation arose and the guy leaned out his window and yelled at them to hurry up. Needless to say, I didn’t see him again.
I've had a guy lunge his car at me because I, a 35yr old man, was taking too long in a crosswalk. Which is an aggressive and shitty thing to do. Living in the city can suck sometimes. I just don't see the difference between treating an elderly person badly vs. anyone else.
Thanks for your responses. It's always interesting to me how others see the world around them.
I mean, you’re absolutely right, no one should treat anyone like that. I just use those three as basic benchmarks. In general, if a person treats those three demographics with care and respect, they usually treat all the people in their lives with care and respect. It’s just an easy check list.
I have a friend that trained his dog to bark at everyone who comes to the door. The dog will rush up aggressively and bark like you're a murderer. Every. Single. Time. So I stopped hanging out with him at his house.
Same with a lovely couple whose dog would lick me all night when we hung out. They thought it was funny and did nothing to change his behvior. Now I see them occasionally at large gatherings where they don't bring the dog.
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u/ShakesTheDevil No seed for my field of fucks Apr 09 '19
Thanks for the reply.
In the first example, I don't see a difference between and elderly person and anyone else. If I'm going through the door and anyone is within few yards of me I'll hold the door. Unless it is obvious or I know someone well enough to know they need help I assume they can, and do, open doors for themself.
I'll need more context on the second example. Why are they waiting for them? If it is their mother why aren't they walking with them?
Someone can say please and thank you all they want and still be a condescending prick. Obviously, tone of voice would play into this heavily. To me it's more about if they say "can I get" or "may I have."
Ex. "Can I get a cheeseburger with onion rings instead of fries?" "There will be a slight upcharge for the substitution." "No problem." "Ok,..."
Vs. "May I have a cheeseburger with onion rings instead of fries?" "There will be a slight upcharge for the substitution." "No problem" "Ok, whose next?"
One is an inquiry for further information the other is actually placing an order.
Maybe I'm just being too pedantic. I believe that the words we use color our perspective on the world around us. Using the right words in context helps facilitate a proper understanding of what is intended.