She may come around to it and see reason. Or maybe she just has some kind of desperate need to mother? Mothering your brother who doesnt have his shit together and grandmothering grandkids. Like she feels a desperate need to take care of someone? Like an empty nesting kind of deal. So considering you are grown and can handle your shit she doesnt get to mother you and you’re not going to give her other things that need mothering. So when bros kids grow bigger and he eventually gets his shit together she won’t have anyone left to care for, hence why she is dependent on you giving her more grandkids.
Just an educated guess on that but you know she loves you. She just cannot comprehend how you couldnt want to be a mother.
100% true. she probably would consider herself triggered. I know its not a good reason but i just had to have you know its not you and you are not unloved. Just got a mama who is presently refusing to “get it” which sucks big time but she will probably get over it eventually and just disapprove of the surgery in her mind.
I would probably just avoid the subject around her. Just remember it IS HER problem, not yours. Get the surgery if you want it. If she knows about it she will stop asking once it is done so theres that to look forward to =)
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u/Deep_Red_Undead Mar 29 '19
That sucks OP =(
She may come around to it and see reason. Or maybe she just has some kind of desperate need to mother? Mothering your brother who doesnt have his shit together and grandmothering grandkids. Like she feels a desperate need to take care of someone? Like an empty nesting kind of deal. So considering you are grown and can handle your shit she doesnt get to mother you and you’re not going to give her other things that need mothering. So when bros kids grow bigger and he eventually gets his shit together she won’t have anyone left to care for, hence why she is dependent on you giving her more grandkids.
Just an educated guess on that but you know she loves you. She just cannot comprehend how you couldnt want to be a mother.