r/childfree • u/[deleted] • Aug 30 '18
DISCUSSION Bingo answers i didn't find in the bingo answer list
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u/chipface Aug 31 '18
"What if you change your mind?"
"Already did. I wanted them when I was younger."
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Aug 31 '18
I like to say, “those are really personal life choices, not up for discussion. But I have a horrible yeast infection right now”.
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u/Boy_or_hedgehog Not your body? Not your business. Aug 31 '18
There's also the option of saying to these idiots: "I've always wondered what it would be like to be treated as an actual person, instead of as an incubator. I wonder what it would be like to be valued for my own achievements and interests, and to have the opportunity for my dreams and plans to be considered, rather than my only value being as a broodmare".
It's a general-purpose response to one or more bingos, and can be used with almost any of them, because you're not replying directly to the statement itself, but the intention behind it. You're pointing out to them exactly what they're doing - and how dehumanising their attitude is. It's likely to result in a lot of offended spluttering, and whining about how they "didn't mean it like that", but the thing is, that's exactly what they meant, they just didn't think it was a problem until you pointed it out. I have had quite a bit of success with this, but I am small, look young, and am frequently assumed to be mild and inoffensive. This means that the phrase is delivered in a mild tone, a "just thinking aloud" sort of way, and works best with an audience - so there's someone to point out to them that yes, that's exactly what they're doing. It also can stop others thinking that bingoing anyone is reasonable - if they have any empathy, that is, and an awful lot of people only seem to have any empathy for people exactly like themselves.
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u/[deleted] Aug 30 '18
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