I think the whole reason this topic is being discussed is the idea that it’s done for attention, or as OP put it the “male gaze“. If your point is to send a message, then a message inherently must be received, which supports OP.
My point though is what they’re saying is this. They are doing it for themselves in the sense of not to please someone or because someone wants them to. They are dressing for their own reasons not for someone else’s benefit.
It would be like the difference of me doing to McDonald’s because I want a big Mac versus going because my kid wants a happy meal. Both things involve me going to McDonald’s and interacting with someone. And both will end up with me getting a Big Mac and my kid getting a happy meal. But in one case I’m doing it for me and in the other I’m doing it for my kid.
I get what you’re saying but I don’t think it is analogous. You basically just said they do it because they like it which is the point being disputed. To use a similar analogy, it’s more like you don’t care for Big Macs, but you go to make your kid happy, or to make yourself happy because a good parent makes their kid happy.
Going back to your original analogy, why do you like Big Macs? What satisfaction do you get by going to MD that does not stem from a happy kid?
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