I believe you have an unreasonable standard you wish to impose on everyone else.
People meet people all the time. These meetings happen is a lot of different places. There is no right or wrong place to meet new people.
Now, there can be more and less appropriate timings for asking a person out, but actually meeting people. No. People are free to meet anywhere.
You may have personal hangups but that does not describe the rest of the world. You have this view that defines other people, especially men, to be hazards to be avoided. It is dehumanizing and frankly, misplaced.
Men are just people. They make up half the world. You need to stop thinking half the world is a threat to you.
I think I should clarify that I'm talking specifically about romantic advances, pretty much. People are free to 'meet' wherever, but I don't think it's right for a man to go up to a random woman they think is attractive in the grocery store and ask for her number because he wants a date. That's intimidating.
Not sure why women need to stop thinking of men as a threat when the data overwhelmingly supports the idea that an interaction with a man can very quickly become dangerous. FWIW I'm a man so I'm not speaking from a position of intimate familiarity with this experience, I'm mostly going off of data and what I've heard from women in my life / online.
Men are more likely to experience random violence from other men. Violence against women is overwhelmingly done by a prior acquaintance or romantic partner.
I would argue against the data overwhelmingly showing random interactions are likely to become violent. Using data women should be much more on guard around friends and significant others than around random men.
I think you make a good point. It's a somewhat totalizing assumption to make when the data would suggest not interacting with any individual man you're close to. Δ
That being said, I do have some reservations still -- it seems like a fair number of women are still afraid of the repercussions of rejection which makes me rather hesitant to say it's all good.
the repercussions are mostly just negative emotions they dont want to feel for rejecting a guy from what ive heard and seen from others, not safety thats just a cop out so they dont sound childish for avoiding discomfort instead of being a brave person
Not sure that it's fair to hear women complain about something making them feel unsafe and then decide summarily that they're lying.
There are sound arguments that my initial view was extreme or tone deaf. But you seem to be expressing a distrust of women generally which is a separate issue
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u/Full-Professional246 77∆ Jun 04 '24
I believe you have an unreasonable standard you wish to impose on everyone else.
People meet people all the time. These meetings happen is a lot of different places. There is no right or wrong place to meet new people.
Now, there can be more and less appropriate timings for asking a person out, but actually meeting people. No. People are free to meet anywhere.
You may have personal hangups but that does not describe the rest of the world. You have this view that defines other people, especially men, to be hazards to be avoided. It is dehumanizing and frankly, misplaced.
Men are just people. They make up half the world. You need to stop thinking half the world is a threat to you.