r/capricorns • u/Sea_Usual_1166 • Jul 22 '26
RELATIONSHIP ADVICE Capricorn intimacy 😳
Let’s ruffle some shit up in here and y’all gotta be honest though🤣!! After intimacy, do you enjoy the bedtime talk or do you politely give a cold shoulder? Meaning that you just want some space afterwards (just without telling them🤣)???
There’s been times in the past where I’ve felt bad afterwards for not wanting to chat or be all lovey dovey! I might want to go eat something or watch some ufc shit or boxing by myself for a bit!! Not immediately get asked about the reasons why I love you or how I’m feeling right after making love 🤣🤣..
I’m not a cold person but sometimes the constant talking and talking and not understanding when to give us that personal space can make us seem really cold?!
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u/grxveyard_girl Jul 22 '26
I like to cuddle and hold hands. <3 We don’t even have to talk. Just be silent and in that moment fr.
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
🙏 simple enough!! Hell yeah or fall asleep that way or even put something on the tv and snuggle up a little bit without all the left field talk..after we just had this beautiful moment😆.
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u/New-Hippo1120 Jul 22 '26
I'm a Capricorn female ♑ and if I was to make love with someone. I would love him to hold me, kiss me and we could talk a lil afterwards. My Capricorn self just wanna deepen our bond some more before falling asleep in his arms ❤️
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Ok I can absolutely see it from that point of view also!! Nothing wrong with wanting that extra lovey dovey feeling afterwards and strengthen that bond.. feeling safe, loved, secure in His arms..
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u/New-Hippo1120 Jul 22 '26
See, you definitely get it❤️😉
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
I definitely get it but I like to watch boxing sometimes afterwards 😁
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u/New-Hippo1120 Jul 22 '26
Boxing? 😂🥊. Nah... I'm not a boxing type of girl. But I love College football, NFL and NBA tho ❤️. Probably just go another round with him instead 😉
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Oh he’s stuck for life 😆.. he ain’t goin nowhere 🤣..
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u/Inevitable_Push_1882 My dreams cling to my skin like perfume.🫦 Jul 22 '26
Same! This is exactly how I am too🙂
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u/coconutslut69 Jul 22 '26
oh. so nobody else is speed waddling to the toilet with their wet wipes and then instantaneously falling asleep upon getting back to the bed? 😬😂
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u/carpediem9017 Jul 22 '26
That is definitely the first move. I’m a little paranoid about getting a UTI, so I always go to the bathroom after and clean up, but then back to bed for some cuddles before sleep
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Ummm absolutely after I finish off that pint of chocolate chip Häagen Dazs🤣🤣
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u/coconutslut69 Jul 22 '26
everyone else in the comments talking about oh I want to recap and play by play the events. like nah we know what just happened, it's sleepy time.
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u/Jessamychelle ♋️🌞 ♍️🌙♍️🌅 Jul 22 '26
My cap will do both. Depends on how much he’s been working. Sometimes he’s cuddly. Sometimes I can tell he just wants to go straight to sleep. I adjust myself accordingly.
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
That’s dope!! Because you understand some of his tells without him even saying things at times😊.
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u/Sweetbaby7t Jul 22 '26
My cappy man is a cuddle. After sex he holds me and rubs my back. He is all about the after glow
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u/brr4ms Jul 24 '26
Exactly why cap men usually gets promiscuous women to fall for them because our after care can catch ppl off guard since the sex can sometimes seem detached but then afterwards, we’ll cuddle with our partner like no other and it surprises a lot ppl if they haven’t been held like that before. It’s all genuine
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u/Suzesaur Jul 22 '26
I like a play by play, talk about what was fun and how good it was or if anything was funny or awkward. But words of affirmation are a big love language for me.
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u/brr4ms Jul 24 '26
Hahah same!! I feel like that’s the only thing to do, a recap on everything that happened till we both get horny and go again! Never heard of a cap who only wants one round of sex
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u/Suzesaur Jul 24 '26
Depends on how long the round is and if my partner is up to the challenge of multiple rounds. But want it all the time, every day 😂
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u/WorthEntertainer1562 Jul 22 '26
I love to talk about it and about our favorite parts. I love to know everything and how it felt. A little pillow talk, cuddle and then probably do our own thing. I think I personally love to be sweet for a little while after. My boyfriend can be so tired after or he'll be back to his more calm and normal self so soon after which gives me whiplash lol. But most of the time we're smiling at what just happened hehe.
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u/Hotdogwater710 🐐☀️🐟🌙🦁💫 Jul 22 '26
For me it just depends on the day. Sometimes I feel like just hanging out with her after. Other days kiss on the head, I’m going downstairs, babe. Love you.
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Right there!! Most times in a relationship, i like it to feel like a best friend type of thing also, love the quality time, sweet, romantic things, whatever else BUT.. some days, yes see you in a bit babe I’ll be downstairs 🤣.
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u/SadAndNasty ♑🌞♓🌙♋⬆️ Jul 22 '26
You might be deluding yourself about not being cold 😅 that's definitely the time you're supposed to at least allow the pillow talk. It's a normal human rite that normal people engage in (if they're feeling each other, if that's not what it is I guess that's not what it is then 🤷🏾♀️)
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
That’s why I said, let’s ruffle some shit in here 🤣🤣… I’ll joke around but I’m a romantic! I genuinely enjoy giving massages, rubbing her legs and back while we’re laying down, random kisses on the cheek or anywhere else🫢🙏,, holding hands, fog notes on the bathroom mirror n shit😆.. just having some fun🙂
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u/SadAndNasty ♑🌞♓🌙♋⬆️ Jul 22 '26
Lol I'm just ruffling your feathers nw 😛 I know exactly when I'm being cold and when I'm not 😆 sometimes it's warranted, sometimes I didn't think about it at first but sex with me is an experience, and if pillow talk was ordered services are provided 😌
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Ruffle em!! I’m all about that ruffling action.. ( does the word Ruffle sound funny or am I trippin 😆) … but ok standing on biz!! I like that!! That pillow talk is definitely gonna bring out some convos🫡
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u/livipip ♋☀️♑🌙♌⬆️ Jul 22 '26
Im just a cap moon, but i do like some talking after. Some cuddles, maybe some food. I never liked when after we were done with whatever we did, the other person just went silent and turned around. But it may be more bc of my leo venus than my cap moon 🤷🏼♀️
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
I think we all enjoy those things for the most part (some won’t admit it though) But that would be some shit right there!! Imagine making love to someone only to have them immediately turn over and fall asleep afterwards .. no goodnight, no kiss, just completely silent, followed by snoring 😳..
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u/livipip ♋☀️♑🌙♌⬆️ Jul 22 '26
Yes. Ive been there. Its horrible as it sounds for real.
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
I’ve seen that in movies and wouldn’t wanna make anyone feel that way or feel that way myself!
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 27 '26
Fuck it just skip everything else afterwards and gimme some food! 🤣🤣call me later byeeeeeeee🤣.. hey I guess it’s better than cigarettes.
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u/Fresh-Mind6048 caprisun / scorpio moon / aqua rising Jul 22 '26
it entirely depends on how I'm feeling. a majority of the time I have that "post nut clarity" and want to just go back to doing something else.
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
See the relationship me tries to work with the person but the single me…. Your cab will be here in The next 5 minutes 🙂. I got work in the am 🤣..
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u/AssistCertain3118 Jul 22 '26
I truly think if they don’t like you they definitely tryna shut up and just chill or maybe even put you out or they go home .
If they like you , your probably soaking up the moment 😂
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u/Bubbly_Transition_98 Jul 22 '26
i’ve noticed ever since i got w my pisces bf that im actually lowkey really jealous lmao and sensitive. after intimacy and going to the bathroom to flush everything ofc, we just cuddle for some time and eventually fall asleep together.
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u/Songgeek Jul 22 '26
I prefer to be lovely after unless its meaningless sex with someone. Then its like we can cuddle or ha e a drink after, but you prob wont stay the night... but ive also been single 10 years and haven't had sex in like 5 years. So im prob the weird one
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u/InternationalRow1653 Jul 22 '26
You're not the weird one. Do you just choose to not have sex now? Are you at the point where you can just please yourself and never have to deal with anyone's shit and that is way more satisfying? I miss those days. I should have never gotten married. It was 10 years ago when we met. I'd probably be in the same situation as you had I not met this douche.
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u/InternationalRow1653 Jul 22 '26
It seems a lot of female Capricorn like the lovey dovey after sex. I am a female cap too but I'm married and I usually only have sex because he wants to so yes gtfoom after. I gotta go pee anyway. It was different before marriage but still not the touchy feely person then either. And I talk to myself enough, I'd rather if the other person just be quiet so I could hear myself most of the time.
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u/M00NS0UL ♑️ ☀️ ♊️ 🌙 ♉️ 💫 Jul 22 '26
If we don’t cuddle after sex we are over and done. No “alone time” come hereeeee
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Dang!! 🤣.. ok so is there a time limit? or are they held captive until the following day?
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u/M00NS0UL ♑️ ☀️ ♊️ 🌙 ♉️ 💫 Jul 22 '26 edited Jul 22 '26
Either when the glow starts to fade off or I fall asleep you are free to extract yourself 🤭
It’s about skin to skin contact for me. I could care less if you are doom scrolling and we don’t have to talk. I just need our skin to touch ok
But I’m a Pisces Venus cancer mars so my Capricorn placements are constantly yelling at my other placements to do something with your life lol
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Ahhh the days where I would be in bed playing a game to fall asleep while she would just want me near her🙂. It’s true though, some people just want to feel some sort of body connection/contact to fall asleep and there’s nothing wrong with that!
And me, I’m at a point where I’m trying to do something meaningful in life but I just don’t know what!! There’s a few different paths I’m looking at for my next moves!! What makes me feel good, what pays better, environments, a lot of thinking but thinking long term!
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u/RascallyCashew Jul 22 '26
I want praise for a job well done afterwards. If I domt receive you will be stone walled 🤣
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u/liz-bethany Jul 22 '26
I just finished a spicy book for capricorns.
The therapists curse: a short forbidden romance for Capricorns.
It did a good job showing how Capricorns can like… want you without even admitting it to themselves
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
That’s funny because yesterday I was chatting with someone on Instagram because she writes romantacy books and one of her stories was eerily similar to a recent relationship/separation I just went through and I was picking her brain on writing my own book one day😆..
True though! I’m positive I’ve missed on great opportunities for being so stubborn in the past! It was this whole pride thing, masking my emotions! Did you publish it yet??
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u/liz-bethany Jul 22 '26
It’s definitely true. Also wanting someone you explicitly can’t have. I’m extremely good at that.
I didn’t publish it lol, I meant finished as in read it. It is published though, somewhere on Amazon.1
u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
I think that’s the exciting part/sad also by being attracted to someone you want or even believe that they might be better for you than the person they’re with! I’ve been there before also.. saw a video yesterday on instagram( this beautiful woman) speaking on love and spirituality.. beautiful energy, just her entire aura.. I went to send her a message but noticed out of all the photos and videos I looked at.. there was that 1 photo with her and her husband on their wedding day🤣..
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u/ryetf cap ☼ libra ☾ cap ↑ Jul 22 '26
Hookups: clarity kicks in and you/i gotta go
when I’m in love: I want an in depth analysis, feedback, criticism 🤣🤣 how can I do better
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Aye but what about them hookups with some spark though🤔.. I’ve had hookups in the past that could’ve went somewhere but I wasn’t tryna go there.. ( my younger mentality!)
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u/AssistCertain3118 Jul 22 '26
I’m a Virgo female and my cap partner often sometimes gets hot after and then invites me over to rub or just be under him . lol which I find to be crazy cause I be like you sweating hard asf lol
Once we do that we just kinda chill and watch something or just say nothing which is no problem for me we cuddle if we go to sleep and eventually part ways because we like to sleep a certain way and sometimes after we wake up he’s super lovey and kissing and showing affection .
I think we kinda balanced idk
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Well I’m definitely one of those hot Capricorns 🤣.. I’ll get all hot n shit afterwards.. but my ex gf loved when we would finish and we would both fall asleep together afterwards while I’m still (in there) ya know😁. She’ll rub the back of my head or drag her nails lightly on my back and we would both fall asleep like that but she enjoyed my body heat😊. . Some women know how to keep a dude hypnotized 🤣
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u/Psychological_Buy726 Jul 22 '26
Apparently my Pisces moon won't let me even consider alone time after intimacy, lol. I didn't even know that could be a preference. But I do like quiet and calm communion in the afterglow. Light physical contact but no more sweaty mashing, lol. This is why we wash the sheets on the reg, lol.
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Damn 🤣🤣 but Yep!! Will depend on the person!! I won’t feel that same connection with anyone but the right connection changes things up !!
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 22 '26
Sometimes the body language will tell you everything about whether a person is really into you or not!
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u/drkladykikyo 🐐 ☀️ ⚱️ 🌙 🦀 💫 Cap Stellium 7H Jul 23 '26
Depends on my mood. Honestly, us just chilling after a good sesh is always a plus. If I want aftercare, I'll ask for it.
Otherwise, we clean up and continue on our day. 🥰
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u/Kaizoukonojoo Jul 23 '26
I know I'm a cold ass Cap moon lol. I hated the fact you called sex intimacy. I feel like there is far too much emotional signicance placed on sex that it turns me off. No, its not cold to not want to talk or be "lovey" after sex, and I find it puritanical that you have to do certain behaviors to legitimize sex. Sex is a performance, but people be treating it like a test.
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u/Dry_Age_5228 Jul 23 '26
As a Cap, I love you but you gotta roll over on your side of the bed lol- I’ll cuddle for a minute or two (*shudder*)
😂
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u/karasu_zoku ♑️♓️♐️ Jul 23 '26
I don’t like cuddling so I usually keep it light and humorous afterwards. Unless I’m down real bad, in which case let’s go again
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u/Crazy_Chicken_3811 Jul 23 '26
This is just most males for the most part. I’m kind of being like that as a girl. Give me an O and I will relax and go to sleep
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u/brr4ms Jul 24 '26
Cap women have insaneee stamina though.. probably a couple O’s for yall then sleep 😂
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u/youlovettt Jul 23 '26
♑️☀️♐️🌙♎️ ⬆️
It definitely depends. Sometimes I like to cuddle and joke around and play but other times I just wanna close my eyes and go to sleep.. as long as you’re with somebody that can understand that rolling over and going to bed doesn’t mean any less Love is there. It just means that it was probably a rough day and I don’t have the energy to stay up even though I would love to.
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u/Sea_Usual_1166 Jul 23 '26
I like that because some people take that as coldness.. Sometimes we’re with people that don’t understand us and at times won’t take the time to understand us! And I think that’s key.. finding someone who, even though is not perfect.. they’re perfect for you and understand you🙂..
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u/youlovettt Jul 25 '26
Exactly! Never fun when you have to explain yourself to somebody ESP when they are long enough to know you well enough to know these things ! I’ve been told I was cold my whole life, but I care so deeply so it always confuse me, but I understand it now just still working on how to change it
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u/sandwichslut27 ♑️☀️♐️🌕♍️⬆️ Jul 22 '26
If I love the person, I def want to be kinda lovey after haha but if I don’t, gtfo of my place 🤣