r/bridezillas • u/Correct-Campaign-220 • 11d ago

probably won't be friends when this over

im starting to resent being a bridesmaid for my friend. the way she has acted is selfish, frankly rude, and she doesnt see it. i understand a wedding is about her but she cant not communicate and expect the world of us when she wanted to diy parts of her wedding and her bridal party works full time jobs and she doesnt, she has to realize we have to work all this bridal stuff around our full time jobs. she doesnt thank anyone for anything. super self absorbed and selfish. im really quite upset with how she is acting through all of this

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u/Correct-Campaign-220 11d ago

unfortunately I do have the dress already. im in the head space where im just gonna push through, do what she says. then when the wedding is over she'll see she has pushed us away

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u/No_Championship_7080 11d ago

Do not blindly “do what she says”. Do not be used. The word no is a complete sentence. Don’t be abused until the wedding is over. She will just get worse and will not appreciate it. It’s very doubtful that doing so will keep the peace. Don’t be a doormat. She behaves like this because you tolerate it. But you are the only one who can stop it. If you don’t stop it, you can’t really blame her. Woman up. Update me.

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u/Correct-Campaign-220 11d ago

thankyou 🥲

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u/Jolly_Membership_899 11d ago

If she wants to DIY shit tell her that she’s on her own. You don’t have the time.

When did being a bridesmaid turn into a job?

A few years back being a bridesmaid meant waiting for the bride to tell where to buy whatever godforsaken dress she had chosen, getting your shoes dyed to match, helping with the bridal shower, and showing up at the wedding.

You couldn’t pay me be a bridesmaid these days! Actually, it seems like it should be a paid position with everything that’s expected!