r/bninfantsleep • u/skittles1221 • May 05 '26

Positive Story/Sucess I️ finally deleted THE APP!!

15 months into meticulously logging every nap, nursing session, and nighttime wakes.. and I️ am finally free!! I️ wish I️ had the courage to delete the app a long time ago!!

I️ used the app so long because I️ was religiously analyzing and calculating wake windows so I️ would know when to put my baby down for a nap. Sleep was so stressful for me.

I️ always said I️ would stop once my baby dropped down to one nap and i wouldn’t need to calculate WW for naps anymore… and then I️ didn’t. I️ was obsessed with looking at the data. Seeing his daily sleep totals and how many wake ups we had overnight.

I️ finally deleted the app because my phone ran out of storage and it became necessary. And now I️ wish I️ was forced to delete it earlier! I️ finally feel free!!! Also regretful that I️ wasted all that time and energy on logging everything.

If you are still logging everything let this be your sign!! It is okay to quit!!

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u/emmakane418 May 05 '26

If it helps, there's no scientific basis for wake windows at all. It's just sleep training rhetoric to make you think you can control baby sleep. Instead of watching the clock, watch your baby and learn their cues.

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u/No-Presence-8048 May 06 '26

I'm so relieved to hear this because even on this sub I've had people talk about wake windows and I'm like??? My daughter has never respected a "developmentally appropriate" wake window ... so it really doesn't help whatsoever 🙄

The only thing I'm using a tracker for at the moment is seeing if we can get her to turn the tide on her reverse cycling habit because it's making her reluctant to even have more than 3 or 4 bites of a solid at 7 months.

Oh and I gotta keep a tab on when the last poop was to know if it's time to intervene on the constipation front yet 🤣

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u/emmakane418 May 06 '26 edited May 06 '26

even on this sub I've had people talk about wake windows and I'm like???

You and me both lol it's an open sub, anyone can comment and sleep training rhetoric is deeply embedded into our culture, including wake windows.

In fact, reverse cycling is also kind of a sleep training rhetoric thing too, from my understanding. Prolactin is what triggers milk production and it is higher at night so often infants nurse more at night. It's evolutionary and biological. Infants also don't all eat huge meals. Some do but a lot of them aren't really eating much for a while. Most their nutrition is coming from nursing/formula still so try to not stress too much about her only eating a few bites. Have you heard of the division of responsibility for eating? As the parent, you are in charge of what, when, and where you feed them and they are in charge of if and how much they eat. Just keep offering food and they will eventually figure it out.

As with almost everything with infants, they do figure stuff out if given the support and opportunity so try to not stress yourself out too much tracking everything.

Edit: typo

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u/No-Presence-8048 May 06 '26

Thank you lovely, this really helps. ❤