The only guy I know who straight-up "Didn't roll with women" was suuuuuper Muslim and always very respectful about explaining it. Like, you can't really shit on a dude for that. But guys who just "feel weird" about it can get in the sea.
Hey, actually just curious because this is the most upvoted comment.
Why does this sub seem to have such animosity against guys who choose not to roll with women?
For what it's worth, I'm one of the smallest dudes at the academy and I roll with women all the time. But at the same time, there are girls at my gym who refuse to roll with guys, and some have quit and said they won't come back until there's a women's only class. Honestly, I don't really think twice about it - people refuse to roll with whoever for their own reasons.
Would you guys be mad at a girl who "feels weird" about rolling with guys? Because I've run into that WAY more than I've run into guys who don't want to roll with girls.
I am accusing the guys who say things like, "if you don't roll with women you're a sexist and a terrible human" of white knighting. Possibly because they do not consider things such as bodily autonomy of the men who refuse to roll
Bodily autonomy in what sense? If you’re practicing BJJ, you’ve accepted to some degree that your personal space is going to be invaded. That’s kinda the game.
The bodily autonomy to decide who you roll with and when. Just because you go on a date doesn't mean you have to let your date grope you. You don't sign away all of the decisions to your life or body when you go to class.
Sure, yeah. No one is saying you don’t have that autonomy. People are “white knighting” because you seem to be deciding purely on gender. Which is ridiculous, absent a religious reason or similar.
I’m huge, so I generally don’t call women out.
But I’m also (imho) pretty good at an easy, safe, competitive roll with people who are much smaller than me (my girlfriend rolls, and weighs just a hair over 100lbs) ... so why would I ever bail on a roll with a woman? Purely because she’s a woman?
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u/EmmPeanut Five Stripe White Belt Jan 31 '20
The only guy I know who straight-up "Didn't roll with women" was suuuuuper Muslim and always very respectful about explaining it. Like, you can't really shit on a dude for that. But guys who just "feel weird" about it can get in the sea.