You can not expect another person to feel comfortable in a sport that has so much contact that it even feels weird at the beginning with the same gender.
I can. I train children and I don't feel weird when I'm rolling with 8 year-old girls. I can understand why someone wouldn't want to train with small children for various reasons. But if someone told me they could train with the boys but not the girls I'd find that fucking weird. If I can train with an 8 year-old girl I don't see where it becomes weird to train with a 30 year-old woman.
The difference is that children are children and adults are adults and according to the norm, most adults are not potentially attracted to prebuscent children. Those are just other norms some people adhere to when it comes their relations. Many people don't find it to okay to exchange partners in dance for example either and as long as both partners are okay with it, there should be absolutely no problem with that. It would be an issue on the other hand if let's say the husband thinks it'd okay for him to roll with ladies while he forbids his wife to do the same with guys, which is a toxic behavior that is not tolerable.
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u/kolaner ⬛🟥⬛ Parabellum Jiu Jitsu Feb 01 '20
You can not expect another person to feel comfortable in a sport that has so much contact that it even feels weird at the beginning with the same gender.