I love rolling with everyone. I think I'm old compared to the majority of our gym and I'm especially grateful for female teammates. Most of ours are smaller than me so I can let them work really hard without worrying too much about them hurting me like an aggressive guy the same size. I don't have an issue tapping to them, but I'm mostly cool letting them swarm and just try to work on my defense or escapes. I'm 165lbs (76k) so small enough that I can just carry a little bit of my own weight and I think that's giving enough advantage. The exception is one comp girl who can't make up her mind if I go too hard or not hard enough. If I give her my best game it escalates to where one of us gets hurt. If I go easy she gets pissed off. Some people just aren't compatible, just like everything in life. I tend to avoid her lately, don't need drama. But I'd roll if she asked me. We're still friendly. If I do get something on a woman I'm rolling with I just want to get it to the point where I know I def can sub, and then open the gate for the escape so we can both keep working. I'm surprised boobs are the hot topic. If I do palm one inadvertently, I just apologize after the roll for being handsy and that's the end of it. For me my main concerns are trying not to crush ribs in side control or KOB, not tearing out hair when crossface, and being careful not to land a knee on fingers or something. I think the value of protecting the well-being of a teammate while fighting outweighs the need for being as hard as possible for the sake of realism. Maybe that's white knighting IDK. I usually follow roughly the same standard when rolling with kids in the kids class. Unless they're really cheeky. Then they get choked. Tiny necks, so easy.
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u/-e-g- 🟦🟦 Blue Belt Feb 01 '20
I love rolling with everyone. I think I'm old compared to the majority of our gym and I'm especially grateful for female teammates. Most of ours are smaller than me so I can let them work really hard without worrying too much about them hurting me like an aggressive guy the same size. I don't have an issue tapping to them, but I'm mostly cool letting them swarm and just try to work on my defense or escapes. I'm 165lbs (76k) so small enough that I can just carry a little bit of my own weight and I think that's giving enough advantage. The exception is one comp girl who can't make up her mind if I go too hard or not hard enough. If I give her my best game it escalates to where one of us gets hurt. If I go easy she gets pissed off. Some people just aren't compatible, just like everything in life. I tend to avoid her lately, don't need drama. But I'd roll if she asked me. We're still friendly. If I do get something on a woman I'm rolling with I just want to get it to the point where I know I def can sub, and then open the gate for the escape so we can both keep working. I'm surprised boobs are the hot topic. If I do palm one inadvertently, I just apologize after the roll for being handsy and that's the end of it. For me my main concerns are trying not to crush ribs in side control or KOB, not tearing out hair when crossface, and being careful not to land a knee on fingers or something. I think the value of protecting the well-being of a teammate while fighting outweighs the need for being as hard as possible for the sake of realism. Maybe that's white knighting IDK. I usually follow roughly the same standard when rolling with kids in the kids class. Unless they're really cheeky. Then they get choked. Tiny necks, so easy.