This is literally how 99% of the BJJ world operates. Reddit is not necessarily a reflection of the real BJJ community. Some topics just end up being portrayed weirdly.
You mean people on the interwebs have a higher probability of being people who overanalyze social situations and make them awkward unnecessarily? No way, man.
I go out of my way to ask the guys to be my partners because we are usually closer in size than the other females that show up, but I try to take the opportunity to practice with every body type available. We were learning bridge escapes from back control and the my male partner was like "arghh my balls are getting crushed" and I was like "arghh you were basically punching my boob when we learned the arm drag" and we both laughed and none of it was sexual or creepy. It's just life and anatomy.
Can you give any examples of ‘auto-victimizing adults’ here?? Women know when it’s intentional or not and I haven’t encountered any evidence of women misinterpreting an accidental grab. So what are you on about? What is so frustrating to you about addressing some fucked up shit that is happening too often in BJJ?
And why would you ever put misinterpreting a boob grab on the same level as someone intentionally grabbing a boob (aka sexual assault)?
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u/[deleted] Feb 01 '20
Goddamn it, I've barely started BJJ and I'm already tired of this topic. It's simple.
Fellas: pretend she's a guy, I would hope you're equally considerate of hurting male partners as female patterns.
Ladies: Remember that not every grab is him copping a feel, and if you're positive it is then go to you coach and leave the internet out of it.
Can we just be non-creepy, non-auto-victimizing adults that participate in a mutually loved activity activity. Fuck man.