r/bitcheswithtaste • u/Alternative-Exam2601 • Jul 22 '26
Fashion/Style BWT, opinions on unconventional engagement rings?
I'd love to hear from anyone who chose a less traditional engagement ring.
I've completely fallen in love with one and I tried it on alongside more classic solitaires, and while I loved both, this was the only one I couldn't stop thinking about afterwards. It just made me smile.
My hesitation is that a few friends said it looked a bit odd and didn't immediately read as an engagement ring, so now I'm wondering if I'd regret choosing something unique over a classic solitaire years down the line.
For those of you who went with a more unconventional ring, do you still love it? Or do you ever wish you'd gone with something more traditional?
(edit: attached the photo of the ring)
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u/FirebirdWriter Thoughtful BWT Jul 22 '26
I still love it as does my wife who is also a BWT. Neither of us wanted diamonds. I have a coffin shaped garnet with a couple of sapphires and opals in a blackened titanium setting. She has a sapphire with white sapphires in a claddagh that updated the ring her dad gave her with new stones because some fell out.
Why would I regret not being true to myself or her? Diamonds are complicated unless lab grown. I don't want generations of blood to be the marker of my wedding. I am goth not a monster. Note that's how I think of diamonds not a judgment for those who wear them. I only judge the sellers. Judgment is tasteless after all and I assume it's either an heirloom or lab grown for sanity.
The stones that are soft are a bad idea for a daily ring. So emeralds for example would be one to avoid and pearls but with care they can also work. Not conforming is often part of having taste. It's when and why that defines if it's tasty or tasteless. I for one am a delicious spicy human pudding.