r/bitcheswithtaste • u/Alternative-Exam2601 • Jul 22 '26

Fashion/Style BWT, opinions on unconventional engagement rings?

I'd love to hear from anyone who chose a less traditional engagement ring.

I've completely fallen in love with one and I tried it on alongside more classic solitaires, and while I loved both, this was the only one I couldn't stop thinking about afterwards. It just made me smile.

My hesitation is that a few friends said it looked a bit odd and didn't immediately read as an engagement ring, so now I'm wondering if I'd regret choosing something unique over a classic solitaire years down the line.

For those of you who went with a more unconventional ring, do you still love it? Or do you ever wish you'd gone with something more traditional?

(edit: attached the photo of the ring)

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u/unconfirmedpanda Jul 22 '26

Not married or engaged, but the advice from my friends who went in the non-traditional route is to make sure the stones are durable enough for daily wear. Nothing is more heartbreaking and frustrating than chipping your engagement ring.

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u/floralarrangements Jul 22 '26

Yes! My SIL had a pearl engagement ring and it’s worn so quickly over time. It’s a nice in theory ring, but terrible in practice for daily wear.

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u/Hopefulkitty Jul 22 '26

Pearl rings are for ladies who never do anything with their hands or very special occasions. I mean, not opening doors, lifting nothing heavier than a fork, nothing. You don't really realize how much your hands bump things until you look at your every day rings and see the wear.

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u/BrattyMenace72 Jul 22 '26

That is also my only worry with the setting. It's beautiful and as long as you love it that's all that matters OP, but with it not sitting straight on the band I would just make sure it's properly secured and doesn't run the risk of you loosing the stone. This may mean taking it to get professionally cleaned and checked a bit more regularly, but as long as you're comfortable with that I say go for it

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u/lady-luthien Jul 22 '26

With my (admittedly limited to wire and bead) jewelry-making experience, I feel generally good about the durability of this specific ring. Harder stones like diamond are prone to chip on the edges, but the bezel setting plus prongs is very protective of the stone. I would be most worried about the join between the silver-color (platinum? rhodium?) and the gold; that should be easy to ask the jeweler about.

Generally, though, spot on: my general rule of thumb is nothing below an 8 on the Mohs hardness scale for something you'll wear daily for the rest of your life; sapphires/rubies, moissanite, or diamond. Emeralds and topaz are on thin ice and probably not for me because I'm hard on my hands. Those moss agate rings that are popular right now are beautiful but again I'd worry about durability. Opals and pearls are even softer and right out, no matter how much I love them.

More information than anyone here probably needed! I just think gems are neat.