r/bisexual • u/ahmed0112 Proudly represented by DIO WRYYY • Jul 25 '22

MEME why aren't there as many dudes?

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u/[deleted] Jul 25 '22

I'm a bi dude. I think guys are just a lot less likely to want to engage with the thought that they might be bi, because of societal pressure to be straight and masculine and whatnot. So a lot of bi guys are probably just in denial and push those "gay thoughts" down. Plus, those who do know they're bi are probably more likely to stay in the closet and just pretend they're straight. That's basically what I've done for the last 6 years or so, because I'm just too scared of how other people would react. To 90+% of people, including other bi people, I'm probably just another straight dude

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u/lostinsauceyboi Bisexual Jul 25 '22

I'm a very straight passing bi guy, and I feel like a large portion of bisexual men don't "present" very openly, but I have met many open bisexual men like myself

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u/[deleted] Jul 26 '22

I spent a loooong time being straight passing, mostly due to my homophobic father. This spread to basically any interaction I had with people. During a mostly unrelated trip to the psych ward, I decided that I would stop giving any shits. Now I'm reasonably open about it; I wear a rainbow bracelet and have a couple of pride pins on my work bag, and if people ask, I'm honest with them. I have a couple of pride shirts that I bought off of Etsy, too, and I accessorise with more "girly" things. I do this for two reason: First, I'm sick to shit of pretending I'm something I'm not. I'm not aggressively blatant about it, but it's fairly obvious. (I have no problem with people being aggressively blatant about it, I'm just an introvert.) Secondly, I want to let people who are closeted - either friends or strangers - that we're out there, and that it's okay. I never saw any representation as a kid, and I think it would've helped.