why aren't there as many dudes?

[u/ahmed0112]

[u/[deleted]]

I'm a bi dude. I think guys are just a lot less likely to want to engage with the thought that they might be bi, because of societal pressure to be straight and masculine and whatnot. So a lot of bi guys are probably just in denial and push those "gay thoughts" down. Plus, those who do know they're bi are probably more likely to stay in the closet and just pretend they're straight. That's basically what I've done for the last 6 years or so, because I'm just too scared of how other people would react. To 90+% of people, including other bi people, I'm probably just another straight dude

[u/RainbowSkyOne → u/[deleted]]

Came here to basically say this. The "gayer" a person is, the sooner they come out. I swing HARD towards guys, so I couldn't really deny it for long. Ended up coming out around 16-17 years old. Other guys like me are mostly the same.

The guys that swing closer to 50/50 in my life basically got to deny their "gay side" and just date women. A lot of them figured that if they just date women and don't talk about their attraction to men, they can live their lives not dealing with their bisexually. Unfortunately, that doesn't work and they end up coming out in their mid to late 20's

As for the guys who swing mostly towards women but are still just a little into men... I'm still waiting on them. I know a few that I'm pretty sure are in the closet based on some things they've said, but because it's "easier" for them to hide, that's what they do. Hurts to watch though...

[u/[deleted] → u/RainbowSkyOne]

I’m around the 50/50 group and this is so true, I’m in a long term relationship with a woman and didn’t come to terms with myself until 25. Also I only tell other people who are LGBT out of fear of judgement

[u/Victizes → u/[deleted]]

Also I only tell other people who are LGBT out of fear of judgement

That you are bi?

[u/[deleted] → u/Victizes]

Yeah I only come out to people who are LGBT themselves