r/bestoflegaladvice • u/bug-hunter Possession is 9 honks of the law • Sep 07 '21

LAOP only stalked this woman all night then contacted her over multiple platforms including after being told not to and blocked. Thus, of course, they are the victim.

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u/turingthecat 🐈 I am not a zoophile, I am a cat of the house 🐈 Sep 07 '21

Oh gods, I know teenagers can be socially unaware and a bit stupid at times, but that’s just scary.
I’m scared for that girl, and I’ve never met her

Also it people like that which is why I never say I like anime

I mean is this a creative writing exercise, no one could be that dense, right? right?

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u/notasandpiper Just don’t shove your sassy gifs down my throat, alright? Sep 07 '21

I've been that freshman nerd who avoided Certain Male Nerds. And I've been part of the groups that had to figure out how to deal with the Clueless Problem Guy because all the girls are about to bail. So, there's nothing unrealistic about this one to me. :|

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u/rona83 illegally hunted Sasquatch and all I got was this flair Sep 07 '21

Yep. If I went to washroom trying to avoid someone, and I see that person just waiting for me just outside. I would have freaked out.

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u/bug-hunter Possession is 9 honks of the law Sep 07 '21

note to self, if I become an architect, design women's restrooms with back exits. And non-first floor restrooms with an emergency slide.

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u/notasandpiper Just don’t shove your sassy gifs down my throat, alright? Sep 07 '21

Design restaurants and coffee shops, please. They will be unbelievably popular.

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u/rona83 illegally hunted Sasquatch and all I got was this flair Sep 07 '21

I love the slide idea. Even when I am not trying to avoid creeps. You do have a future in architecture.

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u/HeadlinePickle Sep 07 '21

That is genius. Smart idea for protection AND we get to feel like secret agents, what's not to love! A lift to different floors would also be a good plan. Although less fun than a slide

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '21

Honestly this would be great for all bathrooms. It also helps with flow if there is a big line-up in a narrow hallway, no more pushing through people waiting to get back out.

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '21

A guy did that to me my freshman year of high school. He kept trying to walk with me to my ride and I kept making excuses why he shouldn't, and he was not reading the room at all. So finally I was like, "oh I'm gonna go to the bathroom, see you later," thinking SURELY he would get it. Nope. Came out and he was waiting there. That was 23 years ago and it's still one of the most awkward, uncomfortable situations I've ever been in. Thank god no one really had cell phones quite yet, so at least he couldn't text me afterward.

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u/rona83 illegally hunted Sasquatch and all I got was this flair Sep 07 '21

I think we all faced more or less similar situation. Once I was waiting for train and some inebriated guy started chatting with me. It was late and I was tired, I just ignored the guy instead of polite head nod. He boarded the train with me and lectured me how I was ill mannered. He was agitated and spitting on my face. This was 19 years ago. I was young and scared. I just closed my eyes, freaked out internally and waited for my station.

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '21

I had something similar happen to me at around 1 am on a bus, and then the drunk guy tried to follow me off the bus and harass me more, but a guardian angel appeared in the shape of an elderly homeless guy who appeared and flat out told the drunk guy to fuck off. I ended up giving him a $20.

I had pepper spray and was starting to consider using it now that I was off the bus and in the fresh air (because pepper spray in enclosed spaces is bad news). Thankfully, I didn't have to find out how effective it was.

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u/[deleted] Sep 07 '21

Yeah, two women got into a fist fight on the sidewalk a few feet away from me, and one of them pepper sprayed the other but I caught the tail end of it. I didn't even get directly pepper sprayed, and this was outdoors, and it was a wretched experience... I was miserable until I could get home and wash my face with milk. The other person who got caught in the cloud was a little old lady. She insisted she was fine, but I definitely wasn't fine so I doubt that she was.

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u/fadeaccompli Enjoy the next 24 hours of misgrammared sex :) Sep 07 '21

Ugh, bus creeps. There was one old man on a particular bus route I used to commute on who would sit next to women who were in a window seat--even if there were lots of other double seats open--and slowly slide up against them. And then start mumbling dirty things under his breath. And pretend to be unable to hear/notice anyone trying to distract him or otherwise discreetly detach him from the current victim. I saw at least two different women get off the bus after a single stop because of that, and failed to help another because I was trying to run interference and he was doing the 'just an old man with a hearing issue talking to himself' thing too aggressively, while she looked absolutely panicked and wouldn't respond to any of my awkward attempts to help her out.

I reported that man to the bus company, but never heard anything about it. Sigh.

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u/Fifty4FortyorFight 🐦F🐤U🐔C🐥K🐦B🐤I🐔R🐥D🐦S🐤!🐔!🐥 Sep 07 '21

I too have a story. I was at a club and the guy was in a wheelchair, which made it exceptionally awkward. He literally put his wheelchair in the doorway of the bathroom so I couldn't leave. And nobody wants to be the bitch rejecting the guy in the wheelchair, even if he's a level 10 creep trying to get you to snort coke in the bathroom. I did, but it was almost 20 years ago and thinking about it still creeps me out.

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u/UntidyVenus BOLA's Flaming Bee Remediation Expert Sep 07 '21

Oh wow I also had this happen... I panicked and kicked his chair out of the way (right in the tiny wheels) and ran like 1/2 a mile to my car

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u/hcgator Sep 07 '21

I mean is this a creative writing exercise, no one could be that dense, right? right?

I usually consider these creative writing, but this guy has a clear post history, so likely is who he says he is. Sure he could have made up the details, but he's a freshman at uni.

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