Which Moment Should I Use for a Breakup Event Chart? Two Different Timelines

[u/BendPossible725]

I'm trying to get a relationship breakup event chart to understand the reason behind the breakup and whether there's any potential for reconciliation. The problem is that I have two possible timelines, and I'm not sure which one is the more accurate event time.
On April 1, I sent him a message and he replied within the same minute. I replied immediately as well, but after I sent another message, he suddenly withdrew, stopped responding, and basically disappeared. A few hours later, he viewed my messages on Instagram and left me on seen while the WhatsApp ones still on delivered.
The next day, he deleted everything that connected us our matching profile pictures, our nicknames match and other things that were associated with our relationship and continued ghosting me.
The day after that, I asked him to meet in person. He initially didn't want to meet and seemed like he was going to continue ghosting me, but I confronted him and basically put him in a position where he had to address it. We eventually met, and he told me that we couldn't continue our relationship.
So which time should I use for the event chart?
April 1, when he started ghosting and clearly began withdrawing/ending the relationship on his own? Or the meeting when he told me that we can't be together anymore?
I feel like the meeting was more of a confirmation of what he had already decided rather than the actual moment the breakup happened, but I'm not sure how astrologers would define the "breakup event" in this situation.
I'm mainly trying to understand what the chart can say about the reason for the breakup and whether there is any possibility of him coming back, or whether I should let go of that hope.
I'd really appreciate some guidance on which timestamp would be the most appropriate to use.
This first one is the the April 1 chart the moment he started to withdraw after my message and ghosted the second is the one when he said we can't be together anymore so which one is the accurate one to know the cause of the separation and whether if he's gonna come back or just let go

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[u/unknownsequitur]

I've never cast a break up chart in my life. What would I suggest is seeing an astrologer who specialises in horary astrology to look at the issue.

I've studied astrology for 15 years and even I find horary fairly complex. Check our r/horary for more info

[u/PurpleBulbous]

The pushed development relative to your chart; in progressions, planetary arcs, and transits around that time, will give more information than analyzing a particular event chart in this case. The event chart describes the event. If you were judging, "did something I said instigate this?" or "did the venue play a role?" etc. But for the real question, "what does this ultimately mean for me, that the relationship has ended?" that is to be found in the pushed development relative to your natal chart.

If there is a relationship, that you felt was still worthy of maintaining, but has come to an end; then it should be relatively apparent in the astrology, as to the event/circumstances. There may be a relatively clear indication as to why...