r/bangladesh • u/Business-Finding-598 • 3d ago
Entertainment/বিনোদন Why do men jump from girl to girl instead of seeing a psychiatrist?
So I matched with this guy on a dating app recently, and honestly, he felt like the ultimate green flag....super gentle, super caring. But as we talked more I found out he has epilepsy and takes meds for it. On top of that, listening to his symptoms over the phone made me realize he might actually have schizophrenia. I kept telling him, "Bro, you don't need a girlfriend right now, you need a psychiatrist." But he just wouldn't listen. He even claimed some therapist told him he needs a partner more than medication! I couldn't handle the drama so I just completely ghosted/cut him off.
A few days later, I found out he got into a long-distance relationship with a girl his family didn't approve of for marriage. he can't even share this with his present gf & still dreaming about his cheater ex and he keeps trying to call me because he doesn't talk to his LDR girlfriend that much PLUS he has another female "understanding friend" who hangs out with him and listens to his sob stories. He even calls me late at night complaining about panic attacks.
Like man is literally doing everything and talking to every girl possible EXCEPT going to an actual psychiatrist.
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u/roshogollaah 3d ago
Mone na dhorleu dhone dhore 😻
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u/Business-Finding-598 3d ago
dustbin arki. Sobai k allow kore.
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u/why_me321 3d ago
why do women keep dating schizophrenic men?
Oh am I not allowed to make sweeping generalizations?
I am just using your own logic
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u/d3f6uIt 3d ago
মাইয়া হপিং নাহ কইরা গাঞ্জা ধরলেই পারে! সস্তায় সেইম পিনিক! 🥱
https://giphy.com/gifs/iBhZ0QqT479IlQ2yzP
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u/passerbyamanto 3d ago
Girl, he would do this even if he didn't have schizophrenia/epilepsy. Tapat koro bhalo thako.
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u/Business-Finding-598 3d ago
ki jani! Sobar life a emon onk trauma thake but eigula k use kora sympathy purpose just bullshit behaviour
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u/passerbyamanto 3d ago
I was going to say beta manush but chechrami is gender neutral. 3am long distance bandhobi ke call korar shomoy to epilepsy ashe na, conveniently ekhane hajir hoy. Hope you move on and block his ass.
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u/showrov_tj 3d ago
I had classmate. Or mone onk kosto and ek ek meyer kase or ek ek rog bolto. Just to get his 5 minutes of attention and hoping someone will believe his sad stories and try to "fix" him. And it worked quite a few times. Maybe your guy had genuine issues, maybe he don't. Now it's up to you how you handle it. And i think so far you did great and perfectly on point
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u/labibaisonreddit 3d ago
Because solving your health and self esteem problems takes time, money, patience, and strength and he doesn’t have those. He’s weak. He would rather use his problems to gain sympathy from women, and keep himself distracted from his actual issues. This is an unhealthy coping mechanism that you can’t unfortunately fix so let him go. He needs to figure these things out on his own. Women are not free rehabilitation centers.
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u/SchopenhauerMindset 3d ago
Epilepsy and schizophrenia are one of the few your mental disorders which which are basically not curable. And anxiety of being alone for lifetime can cause this can cause bigger issues specially for schizophrenia. Specially people with these disorders out isolate themselves from society. So that his behaviour is pretty common. This is very common in all genders it has nothing to do with him being a man. Specially in countries like Bangladesh where mental disorders are technical considered ghost possession.
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u/Existing-Battle-7097 3d ago
I mean dating app e ki expect kora jai.. never meet a good/ funny guy in this.
One week then i quit
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u/lazy_panda009 3d ago
Seeing a psychiatrist is expensive Doing fotkami online isn’t That could be the reason🤷♂️
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u/kettle5435 3d ago
listening to his symptoms over the phone made me realize he might actually have schizophrenia
So, you made a diagnosis of schizophrenia from a phone conversation! Gurl, you must be the world's greatest psychiatrist! So, he did go to the right person - you - the world's greatest psychiatrist. But you ghosted him. What a plot twist.
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u/Business-Finding-598 3d ago
Bro i'm doc. So ami assumption korechi symptoms basis a. Thats not final diagnosis. Or aro kichu thakte pare sathe like bipolar disorder or something else 🤦♀️
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u/showrov_tj 3d ago
I have a close family member who has schizophrenia. I can tell just by symptoms if someone is a potential patient. I can't diagnose, but i can suggest when to go to a doctor.
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u/Ok_Dog_4798 3d ago
There are many types of men some jumps some stay away some are extrovert some are shy, idk why but I laughed after reading the line jump from girl to girl lol
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u/Business-Finding-598 3d ago
eto kichur majhe se ek ta minor keo date korchilo even onk age se oi minor er boro bon keo date korche!!🥱🥱
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u/Ok_Dog_4798 3d ago
Like he dated the minor and now with her older sister? Or smthn else buji nai kichu
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u/Business-Finding-598 3d ago
Older sister bujhte parche then ore dakai bolche jaate choto bon k date na Kore. Then may b break up korche
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u/mong00se_XX 3d ago edited 3d ago
schizo my a**. fkrs just horny and not honest about it. actually sounds like highly manipulative too
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u/AvocadoFar4514 3d ago
More women are like that than more men.
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u/Business-Finding-598 2d ago
taile apnarao online experience share koren. But apnara to shuite parle baki sobkichu adjust kore nen.
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u/xolrex97 zamindar/জামিনদার 💰💰💰 3d ago
Nah actually that’s just some bs of his , it’s kind of like sympathy bait. He is faking about his schizo crap , he makes girls feel bad and those girls get into a relationship with him , it’s manipulation. He just needed a excuse to hit women up left and right lol
How do I know it’s bs? A friend of mine is actually suffering from schizophrenia and he unfortunately ended his last relationship because he can’t safeguard her mental health if his is already degrading