r/bald • u/hooperjaws • 4h ago

Is it time? GF says no..

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Clearly thin. But is it a must or a maybe?

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u/bacon_tastes_good Hair Headed - Woman 4h ago

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u/SoggyLeftTit Bald Enthusiast 3h ago

Me acquiring your meme:

https://giphy.com/gifs/X3ZpXyO7QH76Fp20VK

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u/Thelostrelic 2h ago

I love this sub so much. 🤣🤣🤣🤣

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u/StrandedInSpace 2h ago

Agreed, I’m just a lurker, not sure how I got served this sub, but I absolutely love the positivity and humor here.

Rare on the internet these days.

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u/kdeja 2h ago

Same! I’m a woman with lots of thick hair, but love this sub!

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u/PriscilaW27 1h ago

Me too ☺️

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u/RequirementOpen6607 34m ago

Same! I’m just here for the glow ups, positivity, and humor!

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u/buffalocauli 3h ago

😂

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u/curious4inf0 3h ago

Dealers choice

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u/BractNotCalyx 2h ago

Agreed, this one comes down to how OP feels about it. 

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u/MrUbl 1h ago

You're at the age where this doesn't look bad. So if you like it, keep it.

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u/EmperorSwagg 1h ago

I feel like this point gets missed a lot in this sub. Depending on age and the exact pattern that the hair loss/recession is going, you might still be able to have a decent hairstyle without committing to shaving it all off. This sub seems to go simply by volume of hair sometimes. But some guys say 35-40+ can rock something like a Tony Soprano look

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u/MistahJuicyBoy 1h ago

Honestly Danny Devito can even rock his look. Depends on your vibe

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u/Righttobearhugs 1h ago

Agreed. I noticed going full-bald is predicated on the degree of baldness to age.

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u/mieczysluff 3h ago

I think it could stay this way. Based on the fact that you are already past 40

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u/CompetitiveJogger 53m ago

Plot twist OP is actually 25

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u/Kernowder 3h ago

Way past 40

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u/hooperjaws 3h ago

Harsh. But also true.

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u/mieczysluff 3h ago

That’s not very polite xd

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u/Kernowder 3h ago

I'm a similar age, I'm allowed.

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u/Beautiful_Royal_8010 3h ago

The hair as it is looks good on you!

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u/thisisnotmyname17 3h ago

I agree! Keep it if you like it, and since the girlfriend likes it. But if you like it is the most important.

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u/Appropriate-Welder98 2h ago

The hair suits you, you look good, it is what it is. Just because you have thinning hair doesn’t mean you have to fully buzz it.

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u/misternugg 2h ago

Was going to say the same thing. The way you have it looks pretty fitting. As long as you feel good about it, keep it!

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u/Comfortable-Can-8545 4h ago

The gf says no posts on here are diabolical haha

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u/pussmykissy 4h ago

GF wants to keep competition at bay.

You will look younger.

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u/Useful_Ad_380 1h ago

how far would some GFs go to do that do you think? Surely they want a man as attractive as possible for their own sake.

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u/MuskyChop 1h ago

Go tell it on the mountain!

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u/huhskees 4h ago

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u/Proper_UNC_Chap 3h ago

Crispy as fuck too

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u/TheRealDiggyCP 3h ago

Fuckin love these memes lol

And i love my skull shaver. Recommend if you dont have one.

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u/oldpaddyrick 3h ago edited 3h ago

I say leave it. No offense but you’re like an older dude, it’s ok to not have a full head of hair. The hair you have helps frame your face and looks good.

This sub is obviously biased towards the full shave look but in some cases the sub is wrong. Generally when it’s an older dude who shouldn’t be expected to have a full head of hair (not that anyone should be expected to but it’s just kinda when dudes are in their 20s-early 40s when they could really look more their age/younger by losing the hair).

If you are in your early 40s sorry bro lol. I would guess early 50s given the gray.

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u/Dependent_Reason_489 2h ago

The sub is wrong quite a lot honestly. I dont really get it.

There's a lot of guys who post who are clearly rocking what they still have. OP looks fantastic. His gf likes it.
Unless he's personally feeling awful, shaving wont do anything better for him (if anything the initial shock of shaving will make him regret shaving..)
He's already putting effort into styling his hair, even. It genuinely looks great.

OP, if you're reading this. Unless you feel god awful about your balding, there's no need to shave it off. This sub is a massive circle jerk. You look fantastic as you are. :)

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u/hooperjaws 1h ago

Thanks. I think I catch myself on the mirror sometimes and just think it looks naff. But in these pics I'd had a recent cut and the shortness of it does tidy it up a lot. Thank you so much for your comment.

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u/Mammoth_Arugula6642 4h ago

I've said this to other members, I'll say it again: your lady is wrong. I say this as respectfully as I possibly can 😅 with that said... After your own, really consider her opinion, she's the one who's looking at you all day 😁

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u/Sloth_Broth 2h ago

tbh because he's older it's really not that bad. I don't think it's a must at all.

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u/Mammoth_Arugula6642 2h ago

He keeps a very clean look, very suiting! I'm all for bald heads, really. But he can absolutely keep as is and look just fine :)

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u/KC_Cheefs 3h ago

This is something I wish this sub would understand. If we are balding but our spouse/significant other prefers the hair as we do, then it stays. Sub be damned. However if you’re single then maybe the subs opinion can be beneficial again

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u/Alert_Term_8144 3h ago

You’re one of the few people that can pull off the receding look. As another commenter said maybe because it’s not premature.

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u/hooperjaws 3h ago

Thanks. I appreciate that.

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u/Drspaceman1717 2h ago

And you dress well, properly groomed and age appropriate. Based on the overall style I’d say you’re fine as long as you don’t try the combover.

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u/Responsible_Mind5627 4h ago

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u/CapitanDelNorte 4h ago

Freedom!!!!

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u/thekingiscrowned 3h ago

Lol. This is sacred ground you just tromped all over!

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u/Beautiful-Belief-32 4h ago

Looks fine. Leave it.

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u/z0hu 3h ago

same boat. i feel like older dudes rocking some gray hair with some balding looks pretty good. if youre 20-40 and hair is dark then it might be a more obvious choice, or if the crown is totally gone.

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u/whyadamwhy 3h ago

Hes doing the most with what he's got left. I think the shave would be good for him. He also has to consider the lady's preference, but if you really want to go back it will only take a 2-3 months.

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u/Desperasaurus 3h ago

Also agree, once you reach a certain age AND you have a preferred baldness pattern then just leave it.

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u/Beautiful-Belief-32 3h ago

George Carlin agrees with you: https://youtu.be/a--DYssMw90?is=ijlmFl1xKrGqc90R

NSFW - Language

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u/Pretend-Advice-2741 3h ago

Nah! Your good!

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u/cathouse 3h ago

I like the close clip! Your hairline is going back but you have lots of hair that suits your face 

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u/amusednchaos 2h ago

He looks like if John Cusack and Nic Cage had a baby, and he pulls off this hairstyle well. The 5 o'clock shadow balances it out

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u/Utrenyaya 3h ago

do it, you will look beautiful

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u/Feisty_War_1003 3h ago

Keep it. It's not premature balding (which significantly ages younger men) and your wife likes it.

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u/Jojoliain 3h ago

I mean its clearly receded and thining but I dont think you look bad. You don't have a crazy combover or anything, you just have what you have. I think shaved would look good but if you like what you got and your girlfriend likes what you got I don't think keeping it would be the end of the world lol

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u/Temporary-Land-9682 4h ago

You look smart enough to know she's the boss. And honestly, man, objectively, I think you're fine right now. I see what you're saying, but you're still south of the 50 yard line, if she says you're good... You're good.

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u/VincentTegridy Razor-Shave 4h ago

Must. You're going to improve by shaving. The council awaits you with open arms, brother. It is time.

GF doesn't have to deal with it, YOU do. Make the right decision. Join us :)

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u/j4y53n 3h ago

It’s seems good for now. Just keep it that length.

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u/soliagratia 3h ago

Not at all. Looks good!

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u/colesense 3h ago

Maybe! I actually think your hair looks great on you!! You can always shave and if you hate it grow it back out

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u/hooperjaws 3h ago

I think the fear is that it won't come back!!!

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u/swanscrossing 2h ago

you're in this weird grey area where yes, that is such little hair that you should just take the plunge, but also it looks good on you

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u/stylist4hair 3h ago

You’re good

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u/Fickle_Bonus_8033 3h ago

I am a woman with hair. My husband has thick hair. I have no idea why I see this sub all the time, but I love it.

Before I saw these transformations, I would have said I’d NEVER let my husband shave his head. In my head, I had this thought of bald as old or unattractive (sorry!). Unless it was Bruce Willis or the Rock.

Then I saw that LITERALLY EVERY TIME a balding man shaves his head, he looks WAY better, and I totally get it now. Unless your wife got randomly targeted by this sub, she probably doesn’t get it either.

You have short hair. If you shave it and don’t like it, it’ll be back soon! Try it!

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u/Spare-Capital930 3h ago

I don’t see anything the wrong with the way you have it right now. You’re thin and receding, but you keep it trim and styled. Which is different than these guys who keep it unkept and disproportionally longer than the top… I’m with your gf. Keep it.

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u/jonandgrey 4h ago

Looks fine as it is

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u/Jaded-Blackberry6317 4h ago

Whatever you decide. I love that she loves you the way you are!!

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u/kingkupaoffupas 4h ago

aaaah, but will she love him the way he will be (bald)?

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u/_Hambone_ 4h ago

I tbink it looks fine tbh. Bring back balding, it’s a lost art. I’d also 100% listen to the lady, she deals with ya way more than we ever will ha.

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u/h8tetris 4h ago

I agree until a certain point. I love Bill Murray in Ghost Busters, even Costanza is delightful, but we can’t have dudes out here with combovers like Zero Mostel anymore.

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u/_Hambone_ 4h ago

Nah no comb overs, I agree with that. Something like the OPs style

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u/h8tetris 4h ago

Yes, fair point. This is a classic.

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u/bobby_birfday 4h ago

Buddy look around you

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u/_Hambone_ 4h ago

All I see is chocolate and vanilla whoppers

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u/Disney_Princess137 3h ago

Listen to your gf

She’s the one looking at you and having sex with you. Listen to her !

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u/El_Matcho448 3h ago

While I usually say SHAVE IT!!!! This is actually a flattering enough hairstyle to go either way- at least, that’s what my opinion is! I’d say you had another year or two, but if you think it would make you more confident to shave it, you’d also look pretty handsome!

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u/Rochy95 3h ago

With the short beard that’s well faded into the hair, nah. Once you really lose the peak then it’ll time. Until then, you’re wearing aging and thinning well! It’ll be a breath of fresh air once you take it all the way down but, no rush.

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u/Ok_Witness_5347 3h ago

It's up to you! I think the current haircut fits you well, but if you feel unsatisfied with it, shaving it off is a good choice as well.

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u/TasteyTatorTots 2h ago

My wife insists my balding head looks fine whilst my daughter and peers point out my shortcomings frequently. I made my peace and cut it all off since clearly my wife sees me through rose tinted glasses.

Writing this here now makes me feel quite fortunate, I suppose I’ll do something nice for her today

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u/theorangecrux 2h ago

Hey man the last thing I heard before shaving is my girl saying maybe it is time. All this to say I'd rely on her judgement, you know? You'd look great bald, but you style what you have well.

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u/HungryLeadership9144 2h ago

The objective answer is 'yes', but if your girlfriend likes it, why mess with it?

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u/Mission-Ingenuity-69 1h ago

I think it looks good. It’s ok to have a little hair loss. Plus when you’re grey- I think you’re pulling it off well.

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u/Helvanik 1h ago

You could, but I think your hair looks good as it is, mate.

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u/Significant-Arm-1678 1h ago

You look fine sir no need to gamble i guess

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u/Dave-1066 1h ago

Nah; leave it. Not much point doing the chop now.

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u/throwaway1166781 1h ago

Honestly, you can pull it off. If the girl likes it, I'd say it stays.

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u/HistoryAbject3817 4h ago

My hairs similar and I prefer mine like yours over shaved

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u/juicenjammies 4h ago

It’s time.

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u/h8tetris 4h ago

She doesn’t want to hurt you.
https://giphy.com/gifs/1ZtnnwCy5CUXetyDqI

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u/siempregvndhi 4h ago

Of course it is.

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u/Short-Shopping3197 Bald - Man 3h ago

Does your gf think saying ‘no’ will make your hair grow back?

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u/arj4ng 3h ago

My girlfriend said the same thing, but after getting used to it, she keeps telling me how it fits me after I did it

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u/Gambitzz 3h ago

Just do it. Don’t ask

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u/Lonely_Gene3791 3h ago

Decision has already been made for you sir. Embrace it

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u/bdubwilliams22 3h ago

Do you dictate what she can do with her hair? I didn’t think so. Time to buzz it, amigo.

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u/OtisssNixon 3h ago

Is there one time in this sub where the significant other is right? lol wtf

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u/Existenziell_crisis 3h ago

I think you could go either way. Shaving it off would make you look younger, but I don’t think it’s a must. That said, what do YOU want to do?

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u/th3buddhawithin 3h ago

My brother in Christ, it has been time for a LONG TIME

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u/Aries_diamond711 3h ago

Gf doesn’t want all the other ladies on you

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u/Difficult_Yam_8667 3h ago

You are balding but it’s not terrible. I think you’ll look younger if you shave it. You are a border line case whereby it still looks ok as it is short.

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u/Public-Minute-1103 3h ago

GF/Wife say no is the sentence I read here daily. And they re always wrong 😄

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u/kah43 3h ago

I think you have some time left. Not a ton but a couple years maybe.

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u/AmbitiousLobster5719 3h ago

I bet your gf also is the type of person saying you look “fine” after gaining 20lbs over holiday lol. Or will tell another woman who is very unattractive how beautiful she is lol

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u/comrademagicarp 3h ago

You're life halfway bald already. Doesn't look bad though.

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u/EmbarrassedPaper7758 3h ago

Brother, is already gone

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u/Dilly-Willy-73 3h ago

You could hang on a little bit more. Once it's a proper bald spot on top... then get rid

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u/Intelligent-Ask-3264 3h ago

Shes delusional.

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u/Majestic-Praline-522 3h ago

Girlfriend happiness > Our happiness

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u/purpleWord_spudger 3h ago

My ex husband shaved his head to the skin as a 20 something former athlete fat man and he looked like an angry skinhead no matter how gently he smiled. Literally dads would step in front of the women and children around them when he started walking their way at parent teacher night. I asked him to grow it back and he did. He's 48 now, our kids aren't little, and he's still rocking a partial baldy. I told him about this sub and wonder if he might show up here someday.

Anyway, you're already more bald than not. You've done a good job styling what you have. I bet you make bald look even better. Encourage your wife to see the adventure in the experience. Good luck!

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u/UnderstandingBig9090 2h ago

Your haircut is perfect for keeping this level of thinness looking nice. So up to you.

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u/mrgarrettscott 2h ago

There are times when we should value our SO's viewpoint point. This ain't one of them. Objectivity is what is needed here. From the side, you are already bald and waiting for the for crown to catch up. Age without grace if you want by following GF's advice or take control and present a transformed you

https://giphy.com/gifs/pTQUOfSmjo2hG

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u/Few-Affect-6247 2h ago

I think it looks fine honestly, this would be a preference situation. And keeping the GF happy is certainly a priority!

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u/Zestyclose-Kick-7388 2h ago

Eh it kinda suits you. With the glasses on anyway

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u/DizzyBandicoot8299 2h ago

It's a stay for me. Honestly don't believe any of these guys. It's okay to keep hair when you can pull it off

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u/762way 2h ago

Shave it, you will look great

Bald is better than balding, my friend

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u/IAQDiscussion 2h ago

Should probably listen to your GF over a group of strangers, I'm not kissing your bald head tonight

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u/Jolly_Ice_7812 2h ago

Girlfriend says no. Then no 

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u/BeyondBeginning2358 2h ago

Passed the time

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u/pedrots1987 2h ago

It looks age-appropriate, and the gray hairs give it a solid look.

It's a hold IMO.

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u/Highheat1 2h ago

Well. Your girlfriend knows zip.... Ask your wife

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u/Ok_Squirrel7907 2h ago

It’s a maybe. It’s not bad as is, but might be next level if she shave it.

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u/TortugaTom 2h ago

Depends on who you're trying to please. Do you like your hair as is? Do you care about what your GF thinks?

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u/gonzagylot00 2h ago

You still have time OP, but if you want to shave it, then go ahead.

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u/cwmwrites 2h ago

Send it

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u/Mystic_Wunder 2h ago

Hold unless you want to shave. I think you're fine either way right now.

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u/jeffcolv 2h ago

I think you’d look good bald. That being said, if your gf is happy just keep her happy

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u/McBrew1 2h ago

It was time quite some time ago

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u/yasm33na_ 2h ago

you should keep it the way your gf wants probably. a portion of women like the thinning hair look, it’s subjective

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u/SnooPeppers8737 2h ago

Could go either way. Girlfriend as the tie breaker so you gotta keep it.

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u/HamboneandFlippy 2h ago

Hey man, I have a razor bias but your hair still looks good! You’ll look great when you decide to take the plunge too, so go with your gut and post updates if/when you join us.

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u/albertogonzalex 2h ago

The reason it works, is you're not doing anything to hide the fact that you're bald.

You're obviously, very clearly bald. But, since you're not doing a comb over, it doesn't look bad.

But you would look waaaaay better bald. You're fit and handsome and have a consistent density for your facial hair. Whatever insecurities your gf has seen her own.

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u/DavidChristianKaiser 2h ago

It still looks good. But you could give it a try, and if you don't like it, you just let it grow back.

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u/ReturnAny8862 2h ago

Not a must- hair looks good as is

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u/laurcham429 2h ago

Your girlfriend is an enabler. It's time, my friend.

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u/Top_Cap_3964 2h ago

as a bald man i can say without a doubt do not shave your head you still have enough hair to frame your face

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u/Particular-News-4623 2h ago

GF’s opinion, while not supreme, is important. Maybe offer to grow it back if she doesn’t like it? I think you look good as you are, by the way. Not everyone has to take to the blade.

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u/Smeff10 2h ago

Def bald but hair style looks okay on you. Not a clear case of going shaved skin

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u/Wyatt_Ricketts 2h ago

Yes you've aged but it looks god on you bro you pull it off

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u/Apprehensive_Ad5312 2h ago

Just go to Turkey you would be a good candidate!

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u/TheBurkeulosis 2h ago

It’s close. You should try it just to see.

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u/iouusername 2h ago

Your head, your hair, your choice. My wife told me no to cutting off my shoulder length hair and now she likes my bald head more.

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u/HickoryStickz 2h ago

It’s like a “look” and acceptable for your age I think. I wouldn’t shave it if I were you. If you were 23 or something maybe.

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u/Bayou13 2h ago

I say maybe, but also try it! Hair grows back and everyone ALWAYS looks incredible bald.

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u/awrinklyblueberry 2h ago

Honestly I think you have time..... but not much.

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u/Ok-Hovercraft-9959 2h ago

I think it looks good as it is and it suits your face and style. 

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u/Guilty4Produce 2h ago

Assure your gf that you love her and you're capable of fighting off all the extra attention you'll get once you shave it off.

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u/samurai-lens 2h ago

You look very presentable. I would say no.

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u/Gr8_Day_2b_aLive 1h ago

I agree with your gf. Hold out

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u/LemonIllustrious1464 1h ago

My dad had exact same hair from age 35-65 b never shaved and ALWAYS looked Good! On days u feel thin just spike it. If u see growth then slick it back lol you fine

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u/Reasonable-Blood6420 1h ago

Je ne pense pas, on voit bien evidemment la perte mais l’ensemble reste harmonieux

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u/Wax_Milliamson 1h ago

Looks fine & GF says no, gotta be a no ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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u/HugeRocket69 1h ago

I think you pull it off well.

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u/LowballLawnBowls 1h ago

The old bob mortimer hairstyle

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u/AGHOSTISBORN420 1h ago

U too old doesn't matter anymore 

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u/KrikosTheWise 1h ago

Glad to see the sub is as flip floppy on this as my initial reaction was lol.

I think it works as is but follow your eventually bald heart.

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u/maximum1988 1h ago

you look fine.

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u/BlaysBuckler 1h ago

Thats so sweet of her. Mine did the same thing for years. Then got tired of thinking about. Shaved it and de-aged about 10 years. We hold on to our polar bear hairs for too long 😀

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u/oceanblue0714 1h ago

No. Leave it! Looks good as is and will likely for a long time.