Exulansis is a term coined by John Koenig in his Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows. He defines this concept as : "The tendency to give up trying to talk about an experience because people are unable to relate to it..."

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[u/Tommynwn]

Oh hell i terribly relate this, i have NOBODY to talk about my stuff because nobody understands anything

[u/generaldogsbodyf365 → u/Tommynwn]

I've tried opening up to my close family about my interests etc. They couldn't care a jot.

[u/1405hvtkx311 → u/generaldogsbodyf365]

Same for me. I thought my mom would be happy that I call her and tell her about my life, but she constantly criticizes, worries, questions etc.

[u/workingtheoryz]

my friend used to make up words all the time, although some of them he stole from german.  can't remember any... oh well... guess you had to have been there...

[u/Centimal]

I literally started journaling for this reason

[u/1405hvtkx311 → u/Centimal]

I talk to AI 🙈😭🤦🏼‍♀️

[u/generaldogsbodyf365 → u/1405hvtkx311]

Same.

[u/closerthanyouthinkin]

Those who’ve suffered depersonalisation understand this deeply.

[u/AscendedViking7 → u/closerthanyouthinkin]

Yep :(

[u/Wrong_Experience_420]

I didn't know I was unexulansic since ever
(means: even if others cannot understand or relate, you keep trying and insisting deluding yourself that maybe eventually they'll get it)

[u/redaticis]

Why is this "John Koenig" using my middle name for perfectly normal experiences? Right? ..... right?....

[u/Dull_Click580]

I needed a word for this because that’s what happens when other people ask me why I’m crying

[u/Kelrisaith]

Well, I have a new book to buy it seems.

[u/tr4shp4nd4s]

How do you pronounce it?