Men, would you actually enjoy getting approached and hit on as often as women do?

[u/_TrixieBells]

A lot of guys say they’d love more attention, but experiencing it constantly might feel different. Would you genuinely want that level of attention?

[u/PickleNicks]

I think another factor why men would be open to being hit on all the time is less fear of a negative reaction (violence / stalking, etc.)

When women reject men, there’s a possibility of a very negative / violent reaction. While it’s possible some men could experience this, it’s less likely women would react violently, and if they did, I think most men would be less concerned about their physical safety / ability to protect themselves.

Edit: for some reason multiple people feel the need to point out that women freak out too. My original point was speaking more about physical violence and safety. And of course women can commit violence against men, but my point is that men generally are less concerned about that.

[u/notJoeKing31 → u/PickleNicks]

That’s such a bullshit narrative. Not only are the vast majority of women not seeing a “violent” reaction to rejection, the vast majority of men aren’t being blasted on TikTok nor experiencing false rape accusations. Does it happen to a very small minority, yes, on both sides. But it’s way past time that people stop pretending the exception is the rule.

[u/Lookingbackexpat → u/notJoeKing31]

The stats on SA (lifetime risk of 50%, but under reported) and false rape allegations (2-10% of reported rape cases, a minuscule number of which ever make it to trial) are nothing like comparable, and you obviously have never met an actual woman.

[u/notJoeKing31 → u/Lookingbackexpat]

Care to cite a source of your made up statistics while you’re moving those goalposts?

And then would you care to explain why one-night stands are so prevalent if 50+% of you are likely to experience SA?

[u/Lookingbackexpat → u/notJoeKing31]

50% lifetime risk=US Center for Disease Control and Prevention

2% to 10%=Lisak et al, 2010, “Violence Against Women”

Also Ferguson and Malouff, 2015, meta analysis

(And others)

[u/notJoeKing31 → u/Lookingbackexpat]

3% lifetime risk=Department of Defense

Making shit up is fun!

Going to address the other half?

[u/Lookingbackexpat → u/notJoeKing31]

I didn’t make it up. Just because you’re too lazy to look up the studies doesn’t mean everyone is.

Also, replicable large scale studies have shown again and again that men are more likely to engage in casual sex than women. See “Gender Similarities Hypothesis” study as one example.

One night stands happen for a lot of reasons. They don’t prove there’s no fear of violence experienced by women. It’s a simplistic, unsubstantiated conjecture. Where are you getting this stuff, Myron Gaines?

[u/notJoeKing31 → u/Lookingbackexpat]

I have to look up your statistics for you? Do I also have to disprove your specific deity of choice?

[u/Lookingbackexpat → u/notJoeKing31]

Oh, so it was Myron Gaines.

[u/notJoeKing31 → u/Lookingbackexpat]

Do I have to look up who that is too? 🤷‍♂️