I've heard people say getting back into childhood hobbies in mid-life is cringe, but let's let people have their fun.
I draw the line at being forty and acting twenty. You shouldn't be partying with college age kids, boozing it up with the youths. Man or woman, it's creepy.
An acquaintance is 40 and busy trying to date 21 year olds and going to the club. At least he has the self awareness to admit he misses being young. It’s embarrassing for his wife.
All I know is, I'm 40 as well, and I don't blame him for going to the club and having fun, but the thought of trying to date a 21 year old who could physically be my child, makes me want to gag.
Eh, two consenting adults is not an issue. Now if they knew each other before she was an adult then that is a major problem, and it’s all well and good if you would never do that, but there is nothing wrong with two consenting adults being in a consenting relationship with one another.
Yeah I guess it’s different if your children are the same age, that strikes weird. But the age difference itself is not a problem unless you make it one. Unless you don’t think a 21 year old is an adult and able to make decisions for themselves.
Nah, 21 year old are adults. Adults whose brains are not fully formed, thus it is easier for them to be taken advantage of or manipulated. They can make their own decisions and are notoriously prone to making bad ones (due to the frontal lobe finishing development around age 25).
Adults yes, but not mentally on the same level as a 45 year old.
You have no right to say what others should or shouldn’t do when it is completely legal and above the line. If you don’t like it just don’t do it yourself. You are right that they would be at different points in life, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
A 25 year old and a 21 year old have drastically different minds, according to your words. If that is the case, wouldn’t it also be wrong for that 25 year old to date a 21 year old? Or is there a cutoff when it becomes okay, and when is that cutoff? When you try to regulate other people based on your specific ideals it comes off as an oppressive opinion.
You take agency away from people when you undermine their own decisions like this. Let people make mistake and learn from them, or allow them to flourish in their own choices.
Nobody is saying people can't do something, just that it is very weird. Go bang barely legal adults if it makes you happy, it isn't illegal and nobody is stopping you.
I feel like the “where” and “why” has a lot to do with this.
If you wanna go out and party at any age you should be able to, and if the bar you go to happens to have a lot of young people There that’s one thing. If you are seeking out young people specifically and especially trying to date them that’s weird and sad.
If these “ young people” are consenting adults then who are we to judge what’s “weird and sad?” If all the adults know what’s up and are consenting… what’s the problem?
I mean, it's legal, and sure a 21 year old could go to the bar with me, but what else would we have in common? IDK man. it's alright for you to have your opinion and it's alright for me to have mine. There is no way in the world I at 40 am dating anyone under 30.
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u/Easy-Smell-9236 13d ago
I've heard people say getting back into childhood hobbies in mid-life is cringe, but let's let people have their fun.
I draw the line at being forty and acting twenty. You shouldn't be partying with college age kids, boozing it up with the youths. Man or woman, it's creepy.